Dr. Robin L. Smith is a best-selling author, ordained minister, keynote speaker, and licensed psychologist. You would think with all these credentials, that she has always been blessed with confidence, clarity and contentment. Not so.
There was a time when she reached a crossroads in her life and hungered for a more satisfying existence. That discontentment inevitably led to a huge turning point for her.
She began listing, and going after those things she wanted to experience which are shown below:
I’m hungry for real love—not crumbs I try to call a meal.
I’m hungry for relationships where respect is the cornerstone of the connection.
I’m hungry to be in relationships that don’t require me to dim my bright light to be given a seat at the table.
I’m hungry to have my gift and talents truly appreciated by those I work with.
I’m hungry to not need to dumb myself down so that others feel smart.
I’m hungry to have a partner who doesn’t feel like a predator.
I’m hungry to not have to play small when my spirit and dreams are big.
I’m hungry to be brave and not let fear drive my life.
I’m hungry for an undivided self, soul, life, love, and relationship.
I’m hungry to be me.
Her list identifies many of the things we are all hungry for such as:
Often, we stay silent about our desires because we don’t want to risk sounding ungrateful, or silly to those around us.
Unfortunately, we risk much more if we succumb to pretending and hiding from what we really want. We risk losing ourselves, letting other people define our value, and starving emotionally.
To avoid this famished state, we need to apply the ingredients for successful living, in the same way, we need certain ingredients to create our favorite recipe. For example, when shopping at the store, we usually don’t waste our time looking at the items on other people’s lists, or getting the items that others tell us we need for our recipe.
Instead, we put our energy into pursuing those particular items that we know are needed, and have an assuredness that the combination of certain ingredients will produce the desired outcome.
Similarly, in order to get the desired outcomes we want in life, we don’t want to waste our time looking at the goals, agendas or actions of someone else that has differing priorities or desires than we have. Additionally, we don’t want to be persuaded into following a lifestyle formula that contradicts our own.
We do want to start following the directions of our own heart, which will satisfy our hunger and make us less likely to settle for whatever is placed on our plate, or graze on empty substitutes.
Goal setting is a great recipe for success. Write down at least one goal you desire to achieve such as returning to school or getting a job. Indicate the steps you need to take to achieve that goal (fill out an application or send a resume) and the date you plan to send those documents (by April 1).