Let it R.A.I.N

Where I live on the West Coast it doesn’t rain very much. Fortunately, it is sunny most every day, which is a pleasure to experience.

However, it is inevitable that sooner or later the rain does fall both literally in nature, and figuratively by our life experiences as well.

Though on the surface life’s storms are inconvenient and unwelcome in our daily lives, they are necessary to our personal growth and help us emotionally blossom as a result.

Below is a brief mindfulness process that helps bring awareness to our present state of mind when we are feeling drenched with concerns, or experiencing unpleasant feelings to help us move beyond them:

RRecognize how you are feeling in a non-judgmental way.

AAccept and allow that it’s ok to feel the way you do in the present moment.

I= Investigate what the feeling is trying to tell you, or what self-care behaviors are being neglected such as sleep.

NNon-Identification by separating your emotional state from your character by not judging or labeling yourself as an angry person when you feel anger.

Trying to find the lesson in anything we experience can help us to grow from them and not just suffer through them.

What helps you stay centered through life’s storms?

Change Things Up

Recently, we converted our guest room into a large office. We still have a room for visitors, but it has been moved to another place in the house.

It is so much fun to use a room in a different way than before, and experience the great functionality of it as well.

I can now hold more people in the office for small groups, and other activities not formally able to accommodate.

Additionally, it has prompted clearing out closets, and arranging paperwork for enhanced organization!

A change like this or similar adjustments can breathe new life into us and renew our excitement which is a wonderful outcome.

What changes do you want to make, or have you made already that you are excited about?

Follow a Good Prescription for Life

We just got back from vacation and followed many of the life prescription recommendations above. It’s always nice to get away from daily routines and reconnect with loved ones across the miles as well.

Spending time away can be a great way to get recharged.

Another way to get rejuvenated, whether at home or away is to follow the prescription laid out below. It may not be as exciting as an exotic vacation but certainly may inspire one!

  • Find a quiet and peaceful place where you won’t be disturbed.
  • Close your eyes and take several deep breaths.
  • Breathe in good thoughts, soothing images, and peaceful outcomes.
  • Breathe out tension, stress, anxiety and fear.
  • Select a positive statement or series of statements such as, “I love my life,” “All is well,” or “Everything works out for my highest good.”
  • Introduce those affirmations while you visualize a ball of light entering the top of your head and traveling down to the tips of your toes, spreading a healing energy throughout your body.
  • Repeat this as many times as you need to clear away any unhelpful thoughts, or projections that cause an internal disturbance.

Candles and soft music are optional!

What helps you get revitalized?

Enjoy!

Look at Your Internal Reactions

Often negative words or behaviors are demonstrated in reaction to disturbing events, people or situations. Though we can certainly learn to outwardly respond more positively to our circumstances, it doesn’t necessarily alleviate the stresses within.

Therefore, instead of focusing on the external events, and giving away our power to the actions of others, it is more beneficial to put our focus on how we are internalizing what is occurring.

  • For instance, are we personalizing the behaviors of others, and feeling hurt as a result?
  • Are we making ourselves wrong if someone disagrees with us?

Personalizing and making ourselves wrong are types of internal reactions which definitely influences how we feel on any given day. Not surprising, many of us react pretty similarly to the same stimuli on a regular basis, which provides valuable insight into how we process life.

It can feel as though someone or something is inserting negativity or stress within us or making us feel a certain way. However, usually what is happening is we are being triggered by something in the environment, which activates long standing thinking or emotional patterns.

For example, we may struggle with people pleasing, or have trouble setting personal boundaries which creates unpleasant feelings within us.

These unpleasant feelings can alert us to take better care of ourselves and see if an old fear, worry, or insecurity has been activated as well, thereby helping us reclaim our power, instead of believing it is being taken from us.

What internal reactions have improved for you and what made the difference?

 

 

Keep Your Balance

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Usually our bodies, mind and emotions will let us now when we are out of balance and need to adjust. For instance, I just finished an intensive 8-week course as part of a graduate program, and need to relax for a while to gain my equilibrium.

Naturally, balance is not a static occurrence and sometimes we will be required to work harder than others because of school or a specific project at work.

However, to the best of our ability, it is important to keep aware of what is needed at any given moment, and make whatever adjustments are applicable.

The same balancing principle holds true in daily relating as well. We need to balance giving with receiving and listening with being heard ourselves. Relationships flow better when there is a mutual give-and-take between each other. Additionally, balancing our social media time with private time is essential too!

Getting our needs met is ironically the best way to meet the needs of others, because we aren’t burned out or resentful from lack of self-care.

Therefore, do yourself and others a favor by taking good care of yourself today, and always!

How do you keep in balance?