Stop Making Yourself Wrong

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I was having a conversation with someone last night, and one of the highlights of our discussion was how easy it is to make ourselves wrong.

Naturally, it is hard to feel internal peace if we feel wrong about our decisions, and choices on a regular basis. We all make mistakes but living as though we are a mistake is another matter entirely.

Ironically, it isn’t our decisions that are causing us grief, as much as, our lack of gentleness with ourselves, especially if a choice we make doesn’t feel as we’d hoped it would.

Granted, maybe we can make better choices in a number of situations, but beating ourselves up is more of a problem, than our decision making abilities.

Critical self-judgment does not help us improve anything, and actually harms us by locking our pain and patterns into place. Acceptance of ourselves, however, allows us to look at those areas that aren’t working for us with loving compassion, and gives us the energy and awareness to make empowering corrections.

Action Step:

Start being gentle and kind with yourself today. Become aware that the real problem is often self-criticism, and not the situation you are beating yourself up about.

Listen To Your Wise Self

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With Valentine’s Day approaching, the topic of love is beautifully highlighted, and lovely expressions for those we cherish are emphasized.

Similarly, there are often feelings of longing and lack as well, depending on our situation.

However, no matter what our circumstances may be, there is one person who can always use our attention, love and support and that is ourselves, especially during times of change when we are feeling our most vulnerable.

Below is a personal journal entry, written by New York Times bestselling author Cheryl Richardson, during a transitional period in her life when she needed extra encouragement and comfort.

Thankfully she shared it with us to use as well.


Dear Lovely,

Take a deep breath.  Big change is on the way.

It’s all good even though it may not feel that way right now. 

 Remember what happens when change starts brewing…

You become cat-like curious about new worlds.

You have an intuitive sense that something wonderful is on its way but you mostly feel nervous.

The more nervous you feel, the more the things you’ve outgrown become attractive again.

You catch yourself hanging onto what’s familiar.

The anxious, fearful voices in your head get louder.

You question yourself – your thinking, your motives, and your decision-making ability.

You feel a growing sense of excitement and relief in knowing that you’re about to set yourself free from an outdated prison.

But the relief and excitement are not strong enough yet.

So you teeter on the edge between what you know for sure and what you secretly desire. 

Stay there!

Ride the edge of uncertainty for a while.  

Become cozy and comfortable with doubt. 

Fall in love with ambiguity and chance.  

The edge is a place where trailblazers live – brave men and women who are incapable of settling for less.

Even though they try.   

Don’t shortcut the process.

Otherwise you end up with good instead of great.

Be patient. 

Stay on the edge long enough for the next, important stage of your life to unfold.  And unfold it will. 

It always does.

You just need to remember to Trust Life.

Be willing to sit in the darkness waiting for something solid and true and soulful to reach out and grab you.

And then the next adventure will begin.  

I have your back every step of the way.

Love, Your Wise Self

Surrender to the Moment

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“A ship in harbor is safe — but that is not what ships are built for.”

— John A. Shedd

Hope this first month of the New Year is going well for everyone.

I like the quote above as it indicates that it may be more comfortable staying put, and not venturing into the unknown but that’s not allowing ourselves to set sail into new adventures when our spirit is calling us to do so.

Over the past several months, we have been involved in selling our house as we felt called to reduce, and loosen from our home base, our ‘dock’ so to speak. This choice was made with good intentions, plans, and goals; however, there have been some unexpected twists and turns along the way which has made the process a challenging one.

Much like a stormy night at sea, we are riding the waves, as we are still in the midst of our moving journey. Though we are moving only a short distance away, it is requiring some letting go, and surrendering,

However, we know that this too shall pass and smoother sailing is ahead. We shall sea where this new period in our life takes us.

One way or the other, an adventure awaits.

When was the last time you ventured out of your comfort zone, and how was the ride?

Action Step:

Meditate on these encouraging words.

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See A Mindfulness Life Center on TV

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It is a great pleasure to be a part of A Mindfulness Life Center, and see it televised this week on a local lifestyle show entitled Sonoran Living Live.

I was happy to be there for the filming of it, and to be there regularly to coach and facilitate personal growth workshop series on a regular basis.

It still amazes me how the center evolved from an idea that was shared with us at dinner one night, to becoming a reality one step at a time.

The current owner had a vision of a calming place for the community, and sought out collective sharing of ideas for its implementation, and offerings.

Now even a year old yet, the centers reach is expanding rapidly, along with its peaceful effects.


Fill Your Heart With Love

This song is on the movie soundtrack from the film, ‘How the Grinch Stole Christmas’ which is a beautiful reminder of the spirit of Christmas, and how even a Grinch can have a change of heart.


Where Are You Christmas?
(Written by James Horner, Will Jennings and Mariah Carey)

Where are you Christmas? Why can’t I find you?
Why have you gone away?
Where is the laughter you used to bring me?
Why can’t I hear music play?

My world is changing
I’m rearranging
Does that mean Christmas changes too?

Where are you Christmas? Do you remember
The one you used to know?
I’m not the same one, see what the time’s done
Is that why you have let me go?

Christmas is here
Everywhere, oh
Christmas is here
If you care, oh

If there is love in your heart and your mind
You will feel like Christmas all the time

I feel you, Christmas, I know I’ve found you
You never fade away
The joy of Christmas stays here inside us
Fills each and every heart with love

Where are you Christmas?
Fill your heart with love