Practice Non-Resistance

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None of us likes when things don’t go the way we want them to. Naturally, it is our inclination to try and control an offending situation such as divorce, illness or unemployment, by forcing solutions more to our liking.

Usually, we believe that if we aren’t worrying or stressing over a problem, we aren’t doing anything about our discomfort.

Unfortunately, our resistance to what is happening can cause more problems than solutions. It often produces more stress, anxiety and pain than the circumstance we are resisting, making the upset even worse.

Therefore, we can practice non-resistance and let go of our inner torment and fear by accepting the present situation as it is, while trying to view it as something ultimately meant for our good, growth and healing.

This idea can be appalling to many of us because certain circumstances do not feel good, and accepting a situation the way it is can make us feel powerless and passive.

However, accepting a situation reduces the internal fighting, and frees up our hearts and minds to navigate more successfully through any challenge we face.

It frees up our energy for more mindful thoughts, actions and practices that bring us peace, without wasting our energy on worry and resistance. It is not always easy to release our fears and concerns but prayer is often a good first start.

With that in mind, I have provided a prayer below that I saw in a Unity church newsletter, and thought I would pass it along as a source of comfort for anyone going through a challenging time this holiday season and beyond.


Living, loving Spirit, during this time of silence I release and let go of all my worries, and open to that higher and infinite power that supports me, guides and directs me, feeds my soul and strengthens my Spirit. 

I release all concerns, knowing that we are all connected, and that there is always a higher plan for my life.  I open myself to that divine plan, and to the guidance and direction of Spirit. 

I know that all things are working for my good.  I know that Spirit only wants the best for me, and its power is greater than any situation I face. 

Thank you in advance, for providing positive outcomes that will bless me and everyone involved.  With faith in this truth, I am at peace and free of all worry. 





Dream a New Dream

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On the phone the other day, I was talking with someone about her desires for the future, and she said she needed to “Dream a new dream.’

The beauty of that statement has really stuck with me.

How often have we made our precise plans, and then a situation occurs that alters our direction but leads us to better outcomes for our ultimate well-being?

Like those jobs or relationships we thought we had to have but were denied, only to be blessed with an even better job or relationship down the road.

In her case, it seems that over a course of many years, she had been taking all the appropriate steps to make her specific intentions materialize, and all was evolving quite nicely until several months ago.

Due to some unfortunate and unforeseen circumstances, she has recently been faced with having to adjust her plans.

Instead of abandoning her ideas and hope altogether, she plans to proceed to make her goals a reality but just not in the exact way or timetable she originally imagined.

Her positive attitude, flexibility, and strength are an inspiration.

What derailed plans of yours turned out to be blessings in disguise?

Help When You Can

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I am very touched by the passion and heart that my friend Jennie has for all animals and especially doggies. She mentioned today that a puppy was recently rescued from a dumpster, and is in need of many tests and medicines to get him in healthy shape.

She has personally donated many dollars of her own toward his recovery at the veterinary hospital called, VetMed in Arizona, and is asking for any donation amount toward his immediate care needs.

Rather than just individually donating some money, I thought I would also pass this information along, so that a larger accumulation of funds could get there in the shortest amount of time.

The dog’s name is Trooper, and due to the timely needs of this sweet puppy, she is asking that we call the veterinary hospital at 602-697-4694 up to midnight tonight or in the morning and mention Trooper’s name for our funds to go to the right destination.

Having a personal passion is a wonderful experience, and observing it in others can be a very healing and contagious experience as well.

What cause brings joy and enthusiasm to your life?

Expect Good Results

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Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.”

― Henry Ford

We have all probably heard about the placebo effect which is an amazing phenomenon, where an inactive substance like a sugar pill improves a patient’s condition simply because a person believes and expects they are going to benefit from it. This can be witnessed through actual improvement in their symptoms.

What may be less known, is the nocebo effect which is an equally amazing phenomenon, where that same sugar pill can degrade a patient’s condition simply because a person believes and expects they are going to be harmed from it, often experiencing damaging side effects.

Usually, the attitude, disposition and choice of words used by the physician providing the pills or medical prognosis will strongly influence which effect we experience. This is because the power of suggestion is very strong, and can unconsciously bring about the outcome we are told to expect.

For instance, if we are told in a kind and comforting way about our prognosis, and what we can do to enhance our well-being than we will respond quite favorably.

Conversely, the foreboding and negative delivery of a medicines side effects, health prognosis or length of time to live can be quite detrimental by removing hope, even though miracles happen every day.

This is not to say that we should only look for those who tell us what we want to hear or that others are responsible for what we choose to believe. However, it does encourage the importance of being discerning, and putting ourselves around those who are more mindful in their communication style, and believe all things are possible.

Though much is not fully known about all the psychological workings of either the placebo or nocebo effects, it does illustrate the power of the mind.

It reminds us to never underestimate the power of our expectations, beliefs and what we choose to focus on or whom we choose to listen to.

Filling our environment with positive people, places and things will inspire optimism, and encourage us to keep the faith while expecting only good results in all areas of life.

Action Step:

Ask yourself if you expect good things to happen or are regularly expecting ‘the other shoe to drop’ instead?

Enjoy Movie Time

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Who doesn’t enjoy going to the movies, especially when they are free?

For a brief time only, Hay House Films is offering a free movie entitled The Shift, in memory of Wayne Dyer which includes actress Portia de Rossi.

This film explores the spiritual journey from ambition to meaning through the intertwined stories of a businessman, mother of two, and a movie director.

Through these stories, this inspiring film helps teach us how to create a life of meaning and purpose.

So, sit back, relax and enjoy!

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Don’t Die With Your Music Still In You

The title of this post was a favorite saying of Dr. Wayne Dyer who passed away over the weekend. As many of you know, he was a famous author and speaker in the field of self-development.

Don’t die with your music still in you is a beautiful way to remind us to live the life we were born to live, and express the gifts within us.

As Wayne put it:

That music that you hear inside of you urging you to take risks and follow your dreams is your intuitive connection to the purpose in your heart since birth. Be enthusiastic about all that you do.”

He definitely lived those words by sharing his enthusiasm for writing and completing over 30 books about a topic he was passionate about.

I have been touched by his teachings and briefly met him walking on the beach while we were vacationing in Maui several years ago.

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It is wonderful to see people live their dreams, and inspire us to do the same.

What music is inside of you?

Test the Quality of Your Relationships

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Since having meaningful connections in our lives requires an investment of our time and energy, we want to choose the people we spend our time with wisely.

To determine whether a relationship is draining or fueling us, we need to ask ourselves the following questions which are taken from Cheryl Richardson’s book,Take Time for Your Life, where she also offers ways to communicate with grace.

  • Write down the name of a person in your life.
  • Am I able to be myself with this person? Do I feel accepted by him/her?
  • Is this person critical or judgmental of me?
  • Does the relationship provide an even give-and-take exchange of energy?
  • Do I feel upbeat and energized when I’m around this person, or depleted and drained?
  • Does this person share my values? My level of integrity?
  • Is this person committed to our relationship?
  • Can this person celebrate my success?
  • Do I feel good about myself when I’m with this person?

Confronting Conflict with Grace

Wondering how to confront people who drain you mentally, physically and spiritually?

Once you have identified that you have a toxic relationship in your life, there are specific words that you can use to confront this family member or friend in a graceful, loving way.

Your goal is not necessary to sever all relationships; it’s to set boundaries with this person. If you feel the relationship can be healed, follow these steps.

  • Step One: Set the stage.

“In an effort to honor our relationship, I need to tell you the truth…”

  • Step Two: Follow up with how you feel.

“When you _______ it makes me feel ______…”

  • Step Three: Then ask your family member or friend.

“Are you willing to stop doing that?”


“In an effort to honor our relationship I need to tell you the truth. When you complain about your boss every week, it leaves me feeling drained of energy. If you’re willing to do something about the situation, I’ll support you 100%, but I can no longer listen to your complaints. Are you willing?”

“If you forget this conversation in the future, I promise to support you and our relationship by asking you to tell me how I can support you in taking action to fix the problem.”

“In an effort to honor our relationship I need to tell you the truth. When you put me down I feel angry and hurt. In order for us to continue seeing each other, I need to ask you to stop. Are you willing?”

“In an effort to honor our relationship I need to tell you the truth. When you criticize me I feel drained and upset. I’d like to ask you to stop doing that so we can move closer instead of further apart. Are you willing?”

Action Step:

Assess your own relationship skills by noticing if you are like the friend you desire in others.