Share Your Favorite Things

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Every holiday season, Oprah shares her favorite things list which contains many items that are fun, useful and make great gifts.

One of the clever items mentioned is a Poinsettia Flower Pot Cake which is adorable and looks pretty tasty too!

Another treat that looks very yummy is the English Muffins and Preserves Set, along with so many other delicious gifts!

Happily, these and all the items on the list can be won by clicking this link and entering a daily code as directed.

Sharing kindness, information, ideas, and resources is a wonderful way to enjoy the holidays and the rest of the year as well.

I know I’ve always appreciated when others have mentioned a book they loved, or offered other positive sources of information and support, that have provided an added benefit to my life.

What would you put on your favorite things list?

Visit Local Events

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We all know each other through the written word on our blogs which is great! However, it would be even better to meet with you in person too!

Therefore, if you will be in or around the Scottsdale Arizona area on January 21, 2017, please be sure to stop by the Civic Center Library book signing event to meet and greet myself and other local authors!

Additionally, there are many other local events these days with something for everyone. This time of year and into the Spring is the best in Arizona!

For instance, this weekend is the Fountain Hills Festival of Arts and Crafts event with hundreds of creative vendors selling their unique items!

Just in time for the holidays!

Should be a great time!

What events do you enjoy in your area?

Look Beyond Conditioning

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Our preconceptions can dramatically alter the way we perceive the world. Each of us filters the world through our own beliefs, biases, interpretations and attitudes making objectivity a challenge.

This idea is underscored in a thought provoking film which came out years ago entitled What the Bleep Do We Know!? starring actress Marlee Matlin.

The information contained within the documentary, provides some interesting discussion about how we’re conditioned to see ourselves in a certain way, and believe the world is as we see it.

However, the movie offers the idea that perhaps there are many different ways to view our life, and that there are many possibilities available to us, that our conditioning keeps us from considering or exploring.

The strong influence from familial training or our interpretations of those experiences will affect the choices we make and the way we feel.

Therefore, it is beneficial to become more open-minded and look beyond our own conditioning for other information that may positively influence our life in meaningful ways.

For instance, many of us can relate to finding ourselves in repeatedly unsatisfying relationships, or jobs from making the same choices over and over again, that haven’t always served our highest good until we noticed a pattern.

I know when I was young; I tended to choose the same type of dating partner over and over again, based on ineffective beliefs about myself, and the mistaken idea about being able to change another person, without their desire to do so.

Fortunately, once I became aware of this unhelpful belief system and negative personal filter, I was able to open my mind, and learn better ways to become more discerning which led to the highly elevated choice in my husband.

So, whether this particular film is to your liking or not, it is always advantageous to stay teachable, and open to learning beyond our own vantage point.

What new information on your journey helped turn your life around?

Don’t Reject Yourself

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In reading an inspirational book the other day, I came across the following positive passage, and thought I would share it with you below. This struck me as a wonderful mantra to read on a daily basis to lift us up, and combat the sneaky internal critic that visits us on a regular basis.

I will no longer deal in self-contempt. I will turn down negative inner dialogue that constantly makes negative comparisons between myself and others. Shame is no longer a part of my identity. Thoughts of my being defective or not quite good enough are being released from my consciousness at this moment. I am a lovable and capable person, and I will not reject myself.

― Rokelle Lerner

It can be tempting to doubt our lovability or value when someone says an unkind remark, or acts in a negative way toward us. Certain words or behaviors can really sting, and hurt our feelings, along with the practice of comparing ourselves to others. We certainly don’t want to add to the situation by being unkind toward ourselves too!

Therefore, it’s always a good reminder to be our own best friend, and not abandon or reject ourselves with self-criticism, no matter what is going on within or around us!

What helps you to combat the internal critic?

Be a Victor Not a Victim

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In honor of author Louise Hay’s recent 90th birthday, I thought I would share some of her teachings below, which originated in her book entitled You Can Heal Your Life.

She has been an advocate, and teacher for helping people to love themselves during much of her adult life. She didn’t come from a privileged background or an adoring home, but managed to create a loving life, in spite of her situation.

Many of us come from similarly unhelpful upbringings, and know the internal challenges or insecurities that can result from that experience. However, instead of becoming a victim, she and others have become victors, who are changing their lives, and inspiring those around them as well.

Her example, and nurturing methods helped inspire the writing of my own book too.

In reviewing all the self-care reminders listed below, which has been your greatest challenge or greatest success?

Do Mirror Work.

Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say, “I love you, I really love you!”

Have Fun.

Remember the things that gave you joy as a child. Incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the Universe rejoices with you!

Love Yourself . . . Do It Now.

Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin now—and do the best you can.

Stop All Criticism.

Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

Forgive Yourself.

Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently.

Don’t Scare Yourself.

Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

Be Gentle and Kind and Patient.

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

Be Kind to Your Mind.

Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

Praise Yourself.

Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

Support Yourself.

Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

Be Loving to Your Negatives.

Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.

Take Care of Your Body.

Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.