Expect Good Results

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Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.”

― Henry Ford

We have all probably heard about the placebo effect which is an amazing phenomenon, where an inactive substance like a sugar pill improves a patient’s condition simply because a person believes and expects they are going to benefit from it. This can be witnessed through actual improvement in their symptoms.

What may be less known, is the nocebo effect which is an equally amazing phenomenon, where that same sugar pill can degrade a patient’s condition simply because a person believes and expects they are going to be harmed from it, often experiencing damaging side effects.

Usually, the attitude, disposition and choice of words used by the physician providing the pills or medical prognosis will strongly influence which effect we experience. This is because the power of suggestion is very strong, and can unconsciously bring about the outcome we are told to expect.

For instance, if we are told in a kind and comforting way about our prognosis, and what we can do to enhance our well-being than we will respond quite favorably.

Conversely, the foreboding and negative delivery of a medicines side effects, health prognosis or length of time to live can be quite detrimental by removing hope, even though miracles happen every day.

This is not to say that we should only look for those who tell us what we want to hear or that others are responsible for what we choose to believe. However, it does encourage the importance of being discerning, and putting ourselves around those who are more mindful in their communication style, and believe all things are possible.

Though much is not fully known about all the psychological workings of either the placebo or nocebo effects, it does illustrate the power of the mind.

It reminds us to never underestimate the power of our expectations, beliefs and what we choose to focus on or whom we choose to listen to.

Filling our environment with positive people, places and things will inspire optimism, and encourage us to keep the faith while expecting only good results in all areas of life.

Action Step:

Ask yourself if you expect good things to happen or are regularly expecting ‘the other shoe to drop’ instead?

Enjoy Movie Time

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Who doesn’t enjoy going to the movies, especially when they are free?

For a brief time only, Hay House Films is offering a free movie entitled The Shift, in memory of Wayne Dyer which includes actress Portia de Rossi.

This film explores the spiritual journey from ambition to meaning through the intertwined stories of a businessman, mother of two, and a movie director.

Through these stories, this inspiring film helps teach us how to create a life of meaning and purpose.

So, sit back, relax and enjoy!

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Don’t Die With Your Music Still In You

The title of this post was a favorite saying of Dr. Wayne Dyer who passed away over the weekend. As many of you know, he was a famous author and speaker in the field of self-development.

Don’t die with your music still in you is a beautiful way to remind us to live the life we were born to live, and express the gifts within us.

As Wayne put it:

That music that you hear inside of you urging you to take risks and follow your dreams is your intuitive connection to the purpose in your heart since birth. Be enthusiastic about all that you do.”

He definitely lived those words by sharing his enthusiasm for writing and completing over 30 books about a topic he was passionate about.

I have been touched by his teachings and briefly met him walking on the beach while we were vacationing in Maui several years ago.

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It is wonderful to see people live their dreams, and inspire us to do the same.

What music is inside of you?

Test the Quality of Your Relationships

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Since having meaningful connections in our lives requires an investment of our time and energy, we want to choose the people we spend our time with wisely.

To determine whether a relationship is draining or fueling us, we need to ask ourselves the following questions which are taken from Cheryl Richardson’s book,Take Time for Your Life, where she also offers ways to communicate with grace.

  • Write down the name of a person in your life.
  • Am I able to be myself with this person? Do I feel accepted by him/her?
  • Is this person critical or judgmental of me?
  • Does the relationship provide an even give-and-take exchange of energy?
  • Do I feel upbeat and energized when I’m around this person, or depleted and drained?
  • Does this person share my values? My level of integrity?
  • Is this person committed to our relationship?
  • Can this person celebrate my success?
  • Do I feel good about myself when I’m with this person?

Confronting Conflict with Grace

Wondering how to confront people who drain you mentally, physically and spiritually?

Once you have identified that you have a toxic relationship in your life, there are specific words that you can use to confront this family member or friend in a graceful, loving way.

Your goal is not necessary to sever all relationships; it’s to set boundaries with this person. If you feel the relationship can be healed, follow these steps.

  • Step One: Set the stage.

“In an effort to honor our relationship, I need to tell you the truth…”

  • Step Two: Follow up with how you feel.

“When you _______ it makes me feel ______…”

  • Step Three: Then ask your family member or friend.

“Are you willing to stop doing that?”


“In an effort to honor our relationship I need to tell you the truth. When you complain about your boss every week, it leaves me feeling drained of energy. If you’re willing to do something about the situation, I’ll support you 100%, but I can no longer listen to your complaints. Are you willing?”

“If you forget this conversation in the future, I promise to support you and our relationship by asking you to tell me how I can support you in taking action to fix the problem.”

“In an effort to honor our relationship I need to tell you the truth. When you put me down I feel angry and hurt. In order for us to continue seeing each other, I need to ask you to stop. Are you willing?”

“In an effort to honor our relationship I need to tell you the truth. When you criticize me I feel drained and upset. I’d like to ask you to stop doing that so we can move closer instead of further apart. Are you willing?”

Action Step:

Assess your own relationship skills by noticing if you are like the friend you desire in others.

Create Something Special

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Next year, I am planning to start an on-line magazine containing positive articles of hope and inspiration. This wellness publication will utilize the collective contributions of many selected published authors, who will deliver encouraging thoughts on the power of our mind, body, and spirit.

It is my intention:

To create a holistic magazine that nurtures and inspires readers to enhance and energize their lives. In order to accomplish this work of love, the articles will focus on self-care efforts to improve our thinking, honor our physical health, and express our spirituality. By creating balance and harmony within us, we can make better choices and produce more meaningful experiences around us.

As preparations get finalized, and a definitive launch date is established, I will be asking writers to submit their articles for review at that time.

Until then, I look forward to hearing about something special you have created or have a desire to create.

Adopt More Positive Beliefs

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I was in a group the other day and we were discussing how everyone has the right to believe what they want. Ironically, when it came time to actually share some of our individual beliefs as we went around the circle, many were clearly uncomfortable and vocal about their disagreement about what people shared.

We certainly don’t have to agree with what others believe but unfortunately, there is a tendency to make others wrong for having an alternate view from our own. Many of us would agree that it doesn’t feel good to be on the receiving end of someone’s judgements about our philosophies.

Ultimately, the space was changed into a more compassionate discussion where everyone was allowed to share without fear of being judged.

Interesting enough, once the emotional atmosphere warmed up, then people felt safe enough to individually explore which of their beliefs were working for them and which ones were not.

For example, many walk around believing they aren’t very intelligent or good enough because they were compared to a sibling who got perfect grades or had other outstanding attributes.

As a result, they believe they can’t apply for certain careers because they feel inadequate for certain positions. When this belief is brought to awareness, and they expose this unhelpful thinking, then their view of themselves and their world opens up to more possibilities. If left unaware, they often don’t realize what is driving their resistance to exploring new things.

Conversely, others may feel they are always right because of their high ranking career achievements, and public accolades.

Unknowingly, this is what’s causing havoc in their relationships, as they dominate conversations, and are not open to hearing another’s point of view. They feel compelled to let you know that they are right and you are wrong. Left unaware, they may experience a succession of failed relations, and not experience the pleasure of a true partnership or the joy of learning new things.

Therefore, it is empowering to review our beliefs and see which ones are outdated. When we do this from a positive place and not from feeling defective or wrong, then we can expose and unlearn what is potentially standing in our way.

What new beliefs have you uncovered?

Action Step:

On a sheet of paper, list your current beliefs about aging, money, health, men, women, relationships, friends, yourself etc. and see what comes up.

Treat Your Body Well

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Practically overnight, my husband and I have changed our diet. We didn’t do it for weight loss, but for health gain.

We have seen and heard enough in recent months concerning the health of family and friends, to convince us it was time for some personal adjustments as well.

Certainly, even with the best of intentions, one can still become unwell at times, but it never hurts to increase our nourishing practices nonetheless.

By making delicious, health conscious smoothies and other beneficial recipes as well, we are improving our overall nutritional requirements, which is empowering.

We have found ways to make this new commitment fun, and not a total experience in deprivation. Mostly, is has been just modifying some old habits, and adding more consistent new ones.

It has felt wonderful to implement the wellness steps listed below on a more regular basis:

N – Not drinking diet coke, and limiting consumption of artificial sweeteners

U – Utilizing vegetables every day, and eating more fruit

T – Taking daily supplements

R – Routinely getting a minimum of 8 hours sleep through an earlier bedtime

I – Increase in drinking water, and reduction in coffee intake

T – Taking more time for play, relaxation, and just being

I – Increased exercise commitment

O – Omitting sugar as much as possible 

N – Not feeling deprived by adding and creating delicious recipes

What nourishment practices and positive food choices contribute to your wellness?