“Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their life.”
— William James
Our attitude is the overall disposition we display to the world each day, and can be described as being either pessimistic or optimistic. We decide on a daily basis whether to view the events of our life as negative or positive. The truth is, our attitude is a choice regardless of the circumstances or situations we face.
If our attitude is negative, then we will not be a magnet for upbeat, confident people. Changing our attitude isn’t about being phony and artificially upbeat in order to attract a companion though; it’s about feeling different inside. We don’t necessarily have to delve into psychoanalysis in order to dissect our moods and their origins. However, we can make choices that lead to a more positive mind-set and outcome.
For example, a friend of mine recently went through a location change in her place of employment that put her home much of each day. She went from working at the office to working from her primary residence. The first week in this new arrangement left her feeling lost and depressed as she tried to adjust to her new situation. She noticed her attitude start to deteriorate.
The second week she decided to get up early and go to the gym each morning, and her attitude drastically changed. She started to feel optimistic about being at home and the freedom and opportunities it afforded her, and most important, she started to feel good about herself as a result.
That act of self-care turned a seemingly negative situation into a positive one, and the good feelings it engendered started to extend to others she came in contact with, including her partner.
Where on the attitude scale are you? Very positive? A bit negative? What will you do to change your attitude today?