Privacy Is a Virtue

It is very easy these days to give too much of ourselves away, due to the prevalence of social media such as Facebook, Twitter, and even text messaging. So, try to avoid being too forthcoming with personal information because once we push that “Send” or “Enter” button, we can’t take back what we’ve disseminated, and it’s out in the ethers for everyone to see forever.

Therefore, we need to be more discriminating, and limit what we transmit to others, especially strangers. Privacy and modesty are not only good qualities for our dating life, but are beneficial for our personal safety as well.

For example, you may provide all kinds of personal information to speed up the pace of a relationship between you and a new partner because you feel a need to be married or living with someone by a certain age. This can motivate you to divulge a lot of information in a short amount of time to force a connection. This is especially true if your friends and acquaintances are romantically involved, and you feel the need to keep up with them.

Ideally, you want to get to know someone first and allow the bond between you to develop gradually and incrementally over time, so that you’re emotionally and physically relating to someone you’ve grown to trust.

So, avoid sending excessive e-mails and texts and be concise with the information you communicate and save the extended conversations for your in-person interactions. Also, since you can’t discern someone’s tone of voice in a written message sometimes people can take things the wrong way or misread what you’re saying.

Additionally, respect the privacy of the person you’re in a relationship with. You don’t need to broadcast every detail of what happened on a date to your friends on social media, or via e-mail or texts. It’s no one else’s business.

When you reveal too much of yourself, especially to strangers, it might be something you regret later on and is often never a healthy situation.

ACTION STEP:

Today, reflect on the level of personal information you are giving out and decide if you need to be more selective with what you are sharing and with whom.

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