The law of cause and effect states that for every outcome in our life, there is a specific cause; that everything happens for a reason and all actions or inactions have consequences which produce specific results. The choices we make are ‘causes’ and will produce corresponding outcomes or ‘effects.’
We are usually introduced to this law when we are children without even knowing it. For example, we probably heard our parents say something like the following:
“If you finish your homework (cause), you may watch television (effect).”
The ‘cause’ piece of the equation represents a powerful position of choice; whereas the ‘effect’ embodies the result determined by the actions we choose or choose not to take.
Therefore, if we had chosen to do our homework, then permission would have been granted to watch television, which would have felt good. However, if we had chosen to procrastinate and wait on our homework, then we’d have been denied permission to watch television, which would have felt bad. We may have even blamed this dissatisfying result on our parents, rather than ourselves for choosing not do our homework in the first place.
We can carry this thought process and behavior into adulthood, continuing to blame others for the results of our choices. This creates an endless cycle of living in reaction to the problems and pain we create by not choosing wisely, or failing to take the necessary actions that would have given us more successful results initially.
It is much more effective to focus on the place where we have more power, which is before we make a decision rather than after the fact.
In order to make better decisions, we need to start by putting our energy in the right places:
1) Review daily habits and self-care activities
We make better and more nurturing decisions when we are taking care of ourselves. Additionally, we gain higher self-esteem which in turn creates confidence.
Examples of self-care decisions:
- Getting plenty of rest
- Eating healthy food and exercising
- Engaging in positive self-talk and activities
- Creating a healthy balance of giving and receiving
Examples of self-destructive decisions:
- Settling for a friend who constantly puts us down
- Staying in a relationship with a partner who is mistreating us
- Working in an abusive environment or dissatisfying career
2) Study what makes others successful
If we desire to achieve the results others are realizing in their relationships or careers, then we need to find out what they are doing to obtain those outcomes.
We can try and uncover the following information:
- Books they have read
- Courses they have studied
- Beliefs they hold
- Actions they have taken
According to the law of cause and effect, if we can emulate these actions taken in order to be successful; we will achieve the same results over a period of time. We are not trying to be someone else, but simply learning someone else’s successful habits.
3) Speak to professionals or loved ones about decisions we are going to make
If, over time, we are not experiencing success in life, it is likely because there is something we could be doing differently, or there is some vital piece of information that we are missing. Therefore, we can run it by others and get some much needed perspective. This is not to get approval, but a way to help us sort out and process through the possible consequences of a given choice.
Whether we are aware of certain life laws or not, they still apply because nothing occurs by chance in the Universe.
The good news, and truly wonderful thing about life laws, however, is that when we learn them, and operate within them, we are able to avoid self-created emotional ‘pitfalls’. We begin to experience a more harmonious life by focusing on our self-care, and making better decisions as a result.
Take care of yourself today. Think and speak with others about the possible consequences of your actions. Make sure to do this before you make a decision, rather than suffering the unpleasant results after the choice has been made.