Happy New Year!
The beginning of the year is often a time when we make resolutions, and look to make a fresh start.
With that in mind, I have provided a brief listening self-assessment test below, which I came across recently and found to be very enlightening. It is a great personal growth tool, for gauging our current listening abilities and bringing attention to areas we might want to improve upon.
It is not meant to be used as a way to beat ourselves up, but rather, as a way to take an active role in improving our listening skills, so we can really hear what others are saying.
The better we are at listening, the better we become at understanding what is actually being said, and the less misunderstandings we will experience when communicating with others.
Hope you will give it a try and enjoy!
Select one of the following 3 choices, as you respond to each item on the test below:
Listening Self-Assessment Test
- I interrupt people when they are talking.
- I multitask at the same time I am listening.
- I am uncomfortable being silent during a conversation.
- If someone pauses to think of a word, I give it to them.
- I wait for the other person to pause so I can jump in and make my point.
- I listen for the “gist” of what’s said rather than to each word.
- I stop listening if someone is too detailed or verbose.
- I am easily distracted while I am listening.
- I convey resistance, disagreement or non-interest with my body language (arms folded in front of my chest, looking around room).
- I fake listening.
- I decide the merits of the other person’s message based on his/her appearance, status, age, race, etc.
- I think about what’s wrong with the other person’s point/idea as I listen.
- I don’t give feedback to the other person about what he/she has said.
- I listen impatiently (fidgeting, looking at watch, etc.)
- I don’t make eye contact when I’m listening.
Interpreting your score:
The more items you answered with rarely, the better listener you are!
Take one item you’d like to improve and consciously focus on it for the next week. Repeat this process with other items from the list, as you go forward.