This video is part of an interview with Dr. Ben Carson who is a neurosurgeon and became the Director of Pediatric Neurosurgery at Johns Hopkins Hospital at age 33. He became famous for his ground-breaking work separating conjoined twins, and an inspiration for what is possible in life.
He certainly didn’t start out with the specific life circumstances that one would normally expect from one who becomes a brain surgeon. He didn’t have the wealthy family backing or connections. Actually, there were many aspects of life working against him when he was growing up. He came from a broken home amongst poverty and prejudice.
He overcame a lot of adversity and is a great example of someone who rose above his circumstances. He succeeded in spite of the many excuses he could have used to settle for a troubled life.
I would highly recommend reading or seeing the movie, Gifted Hands: The Ben Carson Story about him. He is a great example of making the most of what we are given.
We each come into life with a set of circumstances or cards to play with such as:
- The family we are born into
- Our particular gender
- Our race and socioeconomic class
- Certain talents and abilities
- Our biology; the body and health we have been given
- And many other aspects
We each have choices about what to do with the cards that we are dealt as well.
Everyone is given specific cards for a reason and often we waste our lives wishing to have the cards of someone else who we think is living a better life than we are.
Ultimately, we don’t know if someone has a better life because we don’t live inside of someone else’s head or home. We don’t live with their particular thoughts, demons or struggles.
There is nothing wrong with wanting more or desiring certain things but that is different than wanting to BE someone else or wanting someone else’s life. Eventually, we need to stop comparing our life with others. We were dealt our particular hand to shape us into the best person that we can be.
Our purpose is to live in a manner that best uses our unique talents and abilities, and make a positive impact on the world around us.
Our life circumstances contain valuable life lessons that can move us to magnificent experiences.
This knowledge can help give hope and meaning to any suffering we may have, and opens the door to asking better questions such as:
- What are the things I can change about myself and life?
- How can I utilize those things I can’t change?
- How can I make the most of what I’ve been given?
- How can I find the courage to pursue my true desires?
- How can I be a better person?
- How can I contribute to myself, my loved ones and the world?
When we put our energy and focus on answering questions such as these, instead of asking why we don’t possess what someone else has; it will matter less what someone else is doing, being or having.
Make a list of the things you like and dislike about your life, and answer the questions above.