Cultivate the Love Within


The conversation outlined below occurred between Wayne W. Dyer and an audience member sitting in the front row at one of his seminars. Dr. Dyer was using an orange to illustrate a point about getting squeezed by the daily stresses of life and what comes out of us under challenging conditions.

It is a very enlightening exchange and a great reminder that we can’t fool ourselves or others about what we hold within us because sooner or later it will be shown outside us.

“If I were to squeeze this orange as hard as I could, what would come out?”

“Juice, of course.”

“Do you think apple juice could come out of it?”


“What about grapefruit juice?”


“What would come out of it?”

“Orange juice, of course.”

“Why, when you squeeze an orange does orange juice come out?”

“Well, it’s an orange and that’s what’s inside.”

“Let’s assume that this orange isn’t an orange, but it’s you. And someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, says something you don’t like, and offends you. And out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, fear. Why? Because that’s what’s inside.”


We have a choice on the thoughts, feelings and beliefs we hold inside us, unlike an orange which doesn’t get to choose its contents.

Good food for thought!

When you get squeezed, what is your first response?

Action Step:

If you want to feel and respond more lovingly, then cultivate tender thoughts and feelings within you through affirmations, meditation and good self-care. These practices go a long way toward growing the love!

14 thoughts on “Cultivate the Love Within

  1. This is a great metaphor! Thank you. And I always hope around these issues, that no one gets it so that we should repress our feelings/emotions. Then It comes even more to the importance of “how” right next to “what”. 🙂



    • Great comments, thank you! Agreed, it isn’t about repressing our feelings/emotions. It is about replacing and clearing out the negative feelings and thoughts within us through a process of better self-talk, affirmations, sharing ourselves with others, meditation and the like. As a result, what grows and develops on the inside is a more happy and healthy world, that responds better to the outside world as well. 🙂 Best, Cathie

      • So well said, crystallized. And yes, I thought so (and the metaphor didn´t sound judgmental). Yet maybe somebody needed to hear that today. Or maybe it was myself. 😀

      • It was good to clarify, and remove any concerns about having to repress our feelings or feeling judged! To know that it is about the positive expansion of who we really are; underneath any negative thoughts that don’t serve us very well! 🙂

  2. Interesting way of demonstrating the point. And so true. We’re so much luckier than the orange. We do have a choice.

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