The conversation outlined below occurred between Wayne W. Dyer and an audience member sitting in the front row at one of his seminars. Dr. Dyer was using an orange to illustrate a point about getting squeezed by the daily stresses of life and what comes out of us under challenging conditions.
It is a very enlightening exchange and a great reminder that we can’t fool ourselves or others about what we hold within us because sooner or later it will be shown outside us.
“If I were to squeeze this orange as hard as I could, what would come out?”
“Juice, of course.”
“Do you think apple juice could come out of it?”
“What about grapefruit juice?”
“What would come out of it?”
“Orange juice, of course.”
“Why, when you squeeze an orange does orange juice come out?”
“Well, it’s an orange and that’s what’s inside.”
“Let’s assume that this orange isn’t an orange, but it’s you. And someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, says something you don’t like, and offends you. And out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, fear. Why? Because that’s what’s inside.”
We have a choice on the thoughts, feelings and beliefs we hold inside us, unlike an orange which doesn’t get to choose its contents.
Good food for thought!
When you get squeezed, what is your first response?
If you want to feel and respond more lovingly, then cultivate tender thoughts and feelings within you through affirmations, meditation and good self-care. These practices go a long way toward growing the love!