Archive | June 2013

Be Open to Advice

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All of us need guidance from time to time, and often the help we receive comes from unexpected sources.

Sometimes the simplest messages are the most powerful.

Ponder the wisdom above, and sea if it helps!

Enjoy!

Believe in Magic

 

Wouldn’t it be fun to fill out the check below, and have it come true in our bank accounts?

This happened for comedian and actor Jim Carrey, who wrote himself a $10 million dollar check before he was famous. He describes in the video above, how this and other visualizations led to his great success along with a lot of hard work.

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Creating an intention and believing it is possible can work “magic” in our lives too.

If the idea of filling out a blank check seems silly or visualizations in general seem unscientific, that mindset will likely prohibit our desires from coming true.

However, if we can suspend our doubts and believe in this process, then we can have some fun with our imaginings, and feel good in the process.

Why not expect good things to come to us instead of sad or unfortunate possibilities?

It is certainly more powerful and effective to feel excited in the present moment about having what we desire, instead of feeling a sense of lack and desperation until it arrives.

Usually, the feelings of lack won’t draw our desires to us anyway but the power of positive thoughts and feelings can bring us positively abundant results.

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As children, many of us had no problem believing in magic, or imagining that it was possible to have what we wanted. As we grow older, however, our belief in achieving our dreams can begin to wane. This is especially true if we have had some experiences that didn’t turn out so good, and have soured us into a place of disbelief.

However, that type of thinking usually doesn’t help us to feel very good, and seldom enhances our present situations.

If we think things are not going to work out, then that makes it difficult for good to arrive. However, if we believe they could work out, then at least we stand a chance of attracting our wants because having a strong belief is very powerful.

It is important to actually feel what it would be like to have the sum of money, relationship or career we desire and not just saying specific words. The positive energy we feel behind our words is what really sets our images in motion for attracting our wishes to us.

In other words, what we believe and expect is what we usually get.

How have visualizations worked in your life?

Action Step:

Take a moment to reflect on how you feel in this moment. Observe the thoughts you are thinking, and come up with a fun visualization to improve your mood if needed.

Take Action Toward Healing

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With Father’s Day fast approaching, it brings to mind a profound experience I had with my dad many years ago. He was larger than life to me when I was a young girl, and a lieutenant colonel in the army on top of it. He ran our home using fear to control and uphold his rulings.

However, the purpose of this post is not to focus on all the negative accounts of my upbringing but to focus on the healing power of forgiveness through the sharing of a positive story involving my dad.

When I first learned that my father was dying, I had a lot of concerns about the whole situation, and we hadn’t seen each other for quite some time. However, my wise mentor and coach at the time encouraged me to see him, and said that I’d be going to heal myself and not as a favor for him.

So, I hesitantly went to where he was hospitalized, and upon arrival, I saw a man I didn’t recognize. He was no longer the big and tall man I remembered but actually looked quite frail, and was uncharacteristically, not in control of his surroundings.

Over the course of several months, my siblings and I took turns visiting with him, so that he was never alone. Then, on one particular day, when my sister and I were on our way out of the hospital, I got this extremely strong internal push to return to his hospital room.

So, I quickly turned around and headed back toward his room with my sister following behind. Once inside, I approached his bedside, which she said was like a scene from a movie, with the director calling out, “action.”

I walked right up to my dad and said, “Hi dad just wanted to come back and tell you that I love you.”

He said, “I love you too,” which are words I never heard from him before.

My sister, who was in the back of the room silently observing the whole scene, said that the nurses in the room had stopped in their tracks while these unplanned and unexpected words were coming out of my mouth.

Soon after that he died.

My mentor had been right about my going to see him, and how healing it would be for me, and I suspect it was for him as well. I would have missed out on this great opportunity, if I hadn’t taken the action and gone to see him, in spite of my misgivings.

Forgiveness is a process and not an overnight matter but continues to be the best cure for resentment, anger and all other forms of internal suffering. It is a way to disconnect from the emotional charge that is attached to a certain person, situation, or memory, and not about condoning, reconciling, minimizing or letting the offending party off the hook.

Ironically, forgiving another, lets us off the hook from carrying around the pain that resides in our minds and hearts. Therefore, it is extremely important to courageously take the necessary steps to release ourselves from the negativity and grief that may be keeping us stuck.

A few methods that can assist in this process are:

  1. Writing a letter to the offending party and expressing all the hurt that we have inside but not mailing it.
  2. Praying for the resented person in order to get the spiritual help, and courage to release the potent anger within.
  3. Being willing and open to follow the guidance, opportunities and situations that present themselves toward our healing.
  4. Talking to a professional or an understanding friend to discuss and process the negative feelings we have about a particular person, memory or situation.

We learn that it is up to us to ask for help and come to terms with our experiences. No matter what our relationship is with our fathers or anyone else, let today and this holiday represent the healing power of forgiveness.

Happy Father’s Day!

Action Step:

If you are struggling with unpleasant feelings and thoughts about someone in your life; ask in meditation that you be shown the way to forgiveness, and be given the courage to follow the actions you are guided to take.

All Is Well – Book Review

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The book entitled, All Is Well: Heal Your Body with Medicine, Affirmations, and Intuition by Louise L. Hay and Mona Lisa Schulz, was given to me by Hay House Publishing in exchange for my honest opinion of it.

I love the teachings of Louise Hay, so definitely would not deter anyone from reading any of her books including this one. I appreciate her positive approach to life, and this book was a good refresher of the information in her other writings as well.

However, what was new and an added benefit was her collaboration with Mona Lisa who is a medical physician and intuitive. Together they discuss treating the whole person, and making a connection between our thoughts and physical symptoms.

It was interesting to read their combined knowledge of health and wellness. Each author has years of experience exploring emotional causes for our physical illnesses and sheds light on how to help us heal beyond just going to the doctor.

Instead of reading this book from the first page to the last, I find myself using it more like a physical health reference book for specific areas of the body, and as a reminder for keeping healthy thoughts as well.

Louise is particularly known for teaching about affirmations and Mona Lisa brings scientific evidence to support how effective making positive statements about life can be for our overall health.

This book helps us to take a more active role in listening to our bodies, and we are encouraged to say the following affirmation repeatedly whenever there is a problem which will help ease our stress.

All is well.

Everything is working out for my highest good.

Out of this situation only good will come.

I am safe.

Enjoy!

Balance Thinking and Action

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The quote above has become very relevant in my own life lately and those around me as well. When we are looking to make a change or events happen that force a decision to be made, many of us respond in one of two ways:

  1. We impulsively react and make a decision without enough information.
  2. We drive ourselves crazy with endless details, information and obsessive thinking without really getting anywhere.

Of course, sometimes when we feel extreme confusion over some action to take, it can be a sign that we aren’t ready. On the other hand, it can just mean we are experiencing fears and loss about having to make a hard choice, which stops us from moving forward.

No one can really decide for us or be inside our skin to have full knowledge of what is causing our trepidation. It is useful to talk with others but then ultimately we have to weigh the input we receive against what feels true for us.

It can be painful when we are trying to decide between an array of choices; especially if we see them as black and white, right and wrong or good and bad. This thinking sets us up to lose either way because nothing we decide will feel good.

Therefore, once we have weighed the pros and cons and given ourselves some time to do what we feel is best; then taking an action either way will just lead us to different opportunities. We can’t usually predict the outcome of any decision we make with exact certainty. However, once we make a choice, then our energy is best served toward seeing what unfolds instead of living in regret and worry. Often, easier said than done!

If you are in a tug of war with your thinking, maybe some of the quotes below will help.

“You can’t make decisions based on fear and the possibility of what might happen.”
Michelle Obama

“Waiting hurts. Forgetting hurts. But not knowing which decision to take can sometimes be the most painful…”
José N. Harris

“If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another.The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.If this sounds too mystical, refer again to the body. Every significant vital sign- body temperature, heart rate, oxygen consumption, hormone level, brain activity, and so on- alters the moment you decide to do anything… decisions are signals telling your body, mind, and environment to move in a certain direction.”    Deepak Chopra

 “Trust your instincts, and make judgments on what your heart tells you. The heart will not betray you.”
David Gemmell

Action Step:

I heard the saying below recently and think it is a good thing to think about today, especially if you are struggling with a decision.

‘Never make a permanent decision based on a temporary emotion!’