Archive | October 2013

Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

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If you are feeling stuck in a rut, and afraid to try something new, then this poem is for you!


My Comfort Zone

I used to have a comfort zone where I knew I wouldn’t fail,
the same four walls and busywork were really more like jail.
I longed so much to do the things I’d never done before,
but stayed inside my comfort zone and paced the same old floor.

I said it didn’t matter that I wasn’t doing much,
I said I didn’t care for things like commission checks and such.
I claimed to be so busy with the things inside the zone,
but deep inside I longed for something special of my own.

I couldn’t let my life go by just watching others win,
I held my breath; I stepped outside and let the change begin.
I took a step and with new strength I’d never felt before,
I kissed my comfort zone goodbye and closed and locked the door.

If you’re in a comfort zone, afraid to venture out,
remember that all winners were at one time filled with doubt.
A step or two and words of praise can make your dreams come true,
reach for your future with a smile; success is there for you!

– Author Unknown

Become Aware Of Your Words

I first heard about the video above while watching a program where Oprah was discussing how much it had changed her life. We often dismiss or refuse to listen to certain messages because we may not be a fan of the messenger.

However, whether we are a supporter of Oprah or Pastor Joel Osteen or not, this sermon is very powerful, and makes us think about the words we say after, “I AM.”

For example, saying statements like, I AM blessed, I AM loved, and I AM happy, feels a lot more empowering on a daily basis than, I AM old, I AM fat, or I AM lazy.

The words we say not only influences how we feel but influences what we experience as well. It is explained in the video as, “Whatever follows ‘I am’ will come looking for you.”

When we repeatedly say, “I Am tired” for instance, than we seem to attract an even stronger feeling and experience of being tired as a result.

It is much more instructional, and transformational to talk about the way we want it to be rather than the way it is right now!

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Therefore, when we say, “I AM energetic,” this internal declaration invites livelier feelings within us, and extends to our external choices as well. Usually, we have to change on the inside before we’ll see change on the outside.

This is a good reminder to become more aware of the words we choose, and the strong impact they can have on us and others, whether they are delivered silently or verbally.


Action Step:

Start noticing what words you choose after saying, “I Am.”

Give a Loving Tribute

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Imagine being honored by the many who have known us, and listening to their heartfelt expressions of how much we have meant to them. Envision taking that same opportunity to let others know how much we’ve been impacted by their lives, and the influence they have had on us as well.

This happened for my stepmother, when many of her closest friends congregated together to celebrate her birthday, and at the same time, pay homage to her life.

One by one, each person got in front of the microphone and relayed some funny and poignant tales of personal experiences they had with her.

  • They described the way she lived
  • The way she let others know they were loved
  • What she meant to them personally

She not only got to hear how much she was loved but was able return their sentiments with her own appreciation for them too. When it was her turn to take her place at the microphone; no one could have known that four months later she would not be with us anymore.

Therefore, it was especially significant that she got to hear her loved ones illuminating testimonials while she was still alive to enjoy it. It was a beautiful moment in time for all who attended, and a wonderful celebration that most people don’t get to experience in their lifetime. What a special gift that her lifelong friends provided for her, and for themselves.

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Birthdays, and other special occasions are an ideal opportunity to turn a traditional celebratory party into a good-natured “roast” or special tribute. Even presenting one carefully thought out speech from a collective group, and beautifully framing the written copy of it, would make a wonderful gift.

So often, the years go by so fast, and we never get around to thanking the people we care about for being the wonderful person that they are, or celebrating our own good qualities as well.

With that in mind, ponder the following questions as you visualize someone throwing a tribute party for you:

  1. What would you want your loved ones to say?
  2. How would you want them to describe you?
  3. Who would you want in attendance, and what would you want to tell them?
  4. What kind of impact would it have on how you live your life today?

This can be a very informative exercise for highlighting whom and what we value, while assessing any changes we’d like to make, or appreciation we’d like to share.

Action Step:

Begin contemplating and writing down the answers to the questions posed above.

Grow From Disappointment

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The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way.

Robert Kiyosaki

We all face disappointments from time to time, but we can use any unsatisfying situations to motivate ourselves, and learn the lessons contained within them. Since disappointments are going to happen, it will serve us greatly to figure out how to best approach things that don’t fall perfectly into place in our life.

Anyone can feel great when everything goes their way but how do we stand when we are faced with a challenge?

Just because we may meditate daily and are on the path of enlightenment, doesn’t mean everything will go our way. As a matter of fact, at the first sign of discomfort, it can be tempting to quit our introspective practices because we believe it isn’t working.

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Rather than allowing disillusionment to consume us, we can look at dissatisfaction’s, and how we handle them as valuable information on our path to self-understanding. We can start to observe our ability to let go, forgive and transcend seeming defeats into greater personal success.

Life is too short to dwell on things we can’t change and we certainly know we can’t change other people. What we can change is the way we hold disappointments, and how we search for opportunities to expand our own character.

For example, it is natural to feel sad when a friend suddenly ends a friendship without offering any explanation or getting fired from a job. However, often times these situations lead us to better friends and jobs in the end. Additionally, they give us an opportunity to look within at our part, and see if we are being good friends or employees as well.

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Doing our best to put disappointments into prospective, and letting things unfold the way they are intended to; will help us to reconnect with the peace and serenity we long for. We need to recognize that we will not only survive our challenges but we can choose to thrive from them as well!

Action Step:

If you are feeling disappointed with someone or something today; take a deep breath and give yourself the same comfort you would grant a hurting friend.

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