We have all heard the words, “I need my space” or variations of this sentiment in one form or another. It is usually expressed in relationships when one partner needs some time away from the other or announced preceding a break-up. Though the connotation seems quite negative, it is actually a positive declaration for honoring the fact that we all need time alone, and space in our daily lives.
It can be tempting to busy our schedules with constant events and people, while neglecting some downtime for ourselves or making room in our daily itinerary between appointments. For example, we may set up a lunch date for noon, and then plan a doctor’s appointment for 1:00. Scheduling our day in this way creates unnecessary stress by booking our agenda too tight, and packing too much into a short span of time.
Additionally, we can have such an ordered and routine way of life that we forget to add room for flexibility, and spontaneity as well. For instance, we may fall into the habit of eating at the same restaurants every week, and doing the same activities every weekend. Over time it can feel like we aren’t choosing our schedule but it is choosing us.
Giving ourselves breathing room and adding some variety to our lives will definitely make “needing space” a welcome and positive statement to hear, especially when we are the ones saying it.
How do you create space in your day?
Put some distance between appointments today, and try planning something different for this weekend.