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Recently, we converted our guest room into a large office. We still have a room for visitors, but it has been moved to another place in the house.

It is so much fun to use a room in a different way than before, and experience the great functionality of it as well.

I can now hold more people in the office for small groups, and other activities not formally able to accommodate.

Additionally, it has prompted clearing out closets, and arranging paperwork for enhanced organization!

A change like this or similar adjustments can breathe new life into us and renew our excitement which is a wonderful outcome.

What changes do you want to make, or have you made already that you are excited about?

Look at Your Internal Reactions

Often negative words or behaviors are demonstrated in reaction to disturbing events, people or situations. Though we can certainly learn to outwardly respond more positively to our circumstances, it doesn’t necessarily alleviate the stresses within.

Therefore, instead of focusing on the external events, and giving away our power to the actions of others, it is more beneficial to put our focus on how we are internalizing what is occurring.

  • For instance, are we personalizing the behaviors of others, and feeling hurt as a result?
  • Are we making ourselves wrong if someone disagrees with us?

Personalizing and making ourselves wrong are types of internal reactions which definitely influences how we feel on any given day. Not surprising, many of us react pretty similarly to the same stimuli on a regular basis, which provides valuable insight into how we process life.

It can feel as though someone or something is inserting negativity or stress within us or making us feel a certain way. However, usually what is happening is we are being triggered by something in the environment, which activates long standing thinking or emotional patterns.

For example, we may struggle with people pleasing, or have trouble setting personal boundaries which creates unpleasant feelings within us.

These unpleasant feelings can alert us to take better care of ourselves and see if an old fear, worry, or insecurity has been activated as well, thereby helping us reclaim our power, instead of believing it is being taken from us.

What internal reactions have improved for you and what made the difference?

 

 

Keep Your Balance

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Usually our bodies, mind and emotions will let us now when we are out of balance and need to adjust. For instance, I just finished an intensive 8-week course as part of a graduate program, and need to relax for a while to gain my equilibrium.

Naturally, balance is not a static occurrence and sometimes we will be required to work harder than others because of school or a specific project at work.

However, to the best of our ability, it is important to keep aware of what is needed at any given moment, and make whatever adjustments are applicable.

The same balancing principle holds true in daily relating as well. We need to balance giving with receiving and listening with being heard ourselves. Relationships flow better when there is a mutual give-and-take between each other. Additionally, balancing our social media time with private time is essential too!

Getting our needs met is ironically the best way to meet the needs of others, because we aren’t burned out or resentful from lack of self-care.

Therefore, do yourself and others a favor by taking good care of yourself today, and always!

How do you keep in balance?

Develop a Great Attitude

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We get to decide on a daily basis whether to view the events of our life as negative or positive. No doubt, it can be challenging to focus on the good that is happening, when undesirable things may be happening too.

Changing our attitude isn’t about being phony and artificially upbeat; it’s about feeling different on the inside which is all we have control over anyway. We definitely can’t always control outside circumstances, or make people do what we want.

However, we can make choices that lead to a more positive mind-set and outcome.

For instance, a friend of mine went through a location change in her place of employment that put her home much of each day. She went from working at the office to working from her primary residence.

The first week in this new arrangement left her feeling lost and depressed as she tried to adjust to her new situation. She noticed her attitude start to deteriorate.

The second week she decided to get up early and go to the gym each morning, and her attitude drastically changed.

She started to feel optimistic about being at home and the freedom and opportunities it afforded her, and most important, she started to feel good about herself as a result.

Her act of self-care turned a seemingly negative situation into a positive one, and the good feelings it engendered started to extend to others she came in contact with.

What helps you stay positive?

Create Your Private Oasis

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I was at a party the other day at a home I hadn’t been to before, and was very impressed by one of the rooms within it.

Beyond just being beautifully designed with high ceilings, wonderful color schemes and gorgeous windows overlooking a lovely landscaped backyard, the room had such cozy warmth about it.

It turns out that the hostess is an artist, who created the charming environment for inspiring her various masterpieces.

There were so many personal touches added to the arrangement of her artistic supplies and other tools necessary for her particular needs. The whole space had an aura beyond an ordinary home office or studio.

It got me thinking about the importance of having our own space or private oasis that is uniquely suited to our individual tastes and motivations.

Whether it’s a writing room or painting studio or anything in between, it is wonderful to have an environment that embraces our originality, and the feelings of peace such a space can provide.

What is your favorite private oasis?

 

Keep Your Power

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Happy New Year!

Each New Year, I like the practice of choosing a single word as a guiding force and direction for the coming 12 months.

However, this year I am using a THREE WORD mantra that I awoke with as 2017 arrived and it is: Keep Your Power.

So, for example, whenever I find myself worrying, I can internally utter the words, “Keep Your Power,” as a great reminder to not allow my peace to be disturbed by internal fear thoughts, and to upgrade my thoughts to something more positive.

Additionally, my mantra reinforcement can help to keep from reacting to external comments or circumstances, by remembering to not take the words or actions of others personally, thereby reducing feelings of hurt or anger.

It may sound like an easy task to keep our power, but almost all of us can attest to unintentionally giving away our peace of mind to someone else who pushes our buttons, and affects the way we think, feel, or behave.

Therefore, since we only have control over how we respond to our thoughts, feelings, and circumstances, it’s important to have mindful practices in place to assist us in making healthier choices, and take more beneficial actions.

Some of those actions might be a dedicated meditation time, or special readings, that lift our awareness and feelings to a higher place.

I heard someone say the other day that they are using the mantra ‘Don’t be mean in 2017‘ to help remember to put kindness first, when frustrations arise, and they’re tempted to react otherwise.

What phrases or actions are of the greatest assistance in helping you to keep your power?

 

 

 

Let Nature Restore You

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As the holiday season comes to a close, many of us may feel the need for some rest and relaxation from the busyness we just experienced. Sometimes the best cure for regaining our peace is found in nature itself.

For me, taking long walks on the beach, watching a sunset, or starring at the stars can instantly provide a therapeutic alteration to my state of mind.

There is something undeniably beautiful, powerful, and spiritual about the exterior gifts from nature, that can elicit such a peaceful, contemplative effect on our internal environment as well.

One cannot underestimate the importance of introspection on a regular basis, as it has a profound impact on the way we think, act, and operate in our relationships.

Therefore, the more we make room in our lives for stillness and reducing the noise level around us, the more we are able to hear the messages from within us.

Unfortunately, the busyness in our lives can pull us away from noticing the lovely settings which surround us, and allow them to fade away unnoticed into the background of each day. This lack of connection can prevent us from the serenity we long to experience.

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Fortunately, it is never too late to begin focusing on all the beauty around us, and reap the benefits of its rehabilitating power.

What nurtures you?