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Avoid Going in Circles

When we look out at the ocean, each of us selects certain things to focus on such as seagulls, surfers, boaters, swimmers, and even our wandering thoughts. Unfortunately, sometimes our roaming thoughts can turn to fear, guilt, or remorse, which doesn’t lead to feeling good or take us where we want to go.

Therefore, we need to direct our thinking toward ideas, images or beliefs that will elevate us, and perhaps cease watching certain negative television programming too! 🙂

Like a fish swimming in a bowl, we can go round and round in circles and have a limited view of what else is available or possible and end up feeling trapped. But, unlike the fish, we can expand our view by choosing more positive thoughts, and set ourselves free no matter what is happening.

We’ve all heard about the law of attraction, and the strong energetic vibrational pull which is often associated with manifesting a certain relationship, career or other desired outcome from optimistic verses pessimistic thinking.

Unfortunately, too often, we become preoccupied with manifesting specific situations which can lead to disappointment, frustration or depression if our outcomes don’t show up on time, or in the way we want. This is not a unique state of mind or surprising emotion to experience when faced with unrealized goals, dreams or desires. However, getting discouraged is often a common reason why our desires don’t seem to be materializing.

Ironically, when we decide to care more about how we feel, verses what we wish to attract, than we are victors no matter if the desired event comes to pass or not. Either way, by reaching for uplifting thoughts, we get to experience more joy, which is why we often want external events or situations in the first place.

Therefore, when we become feeling good focused, we get to feel great regardless of events, and paradoxically, without the negativity or low energy of disappointment getting in the way, our expectations often do occur.

What helps you stay feeling good?

Take A Leap Forward

The World’s Largest Health and Wellness Event

Hay House is a self-help publisher founded by author Louise Hay, and her organization puts this wellness event together once a year.

By clicking the link you can access inspiring audio and video lessons from a multitude of teachers all in one place until May 23rd.

 Everything is free!

 Enjoy!

 

Let it R.A.I.N

Where I live on the West Coast it doesn’t rain very much. Fortunately, it is sunny most every day, which is a pleasure to experience.

However, it is inevitable that sooner or later the rain does fall both literally in nature, and figuratively by our life experiences as well.

Though on the surface life’s storms are inconvenient and unwelcome in our daily lives, they are necessary to our personal growth and help us emotionally blossom as a result.

Below is a brief mindfulness process that helps bring awareness to our present state of mind when we are feeling drenched with concerns, or experiencing unpleasant feelings to help us move beyond them:

R= Recognize how you are feeling in a non-judgmental way.

A= Accept and allow that it’s ok to feel the way you do in the present moment.

I= Investigate what the feeling is trying to tell you, or what self-care behaviors are being neglected such as sleep.

N= Non-Identification by separating your emotional state from your character by not judging or labeling yourself as an angry person when you feel anger.

Trying to find the lesson in anything we experience can help us to grow from them and not just suffer through them.

What helps you stay centered through life’s storms?

Develop a Great Attitude

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We get to decide on a daily basis whether to view the events of our life as negative or positive. No doubt, it can be challenging to focus on the good that is happening, when undesirable things may be happening too.

Changing our attitude isn’t about being phony and artificially upbeat; it’s about feeling different on the inside which is all we have control over anyway. We definitely can’t always control outside circumstances, or make people do what we want.

However, we can make choices that lead to a more positive mind-set and outcome.

For instance, a friend of mine went through a location change in her place of employment that put her home much of each day. She went from working at the office to working from her primary residence.

The first week in this new arrangement left her feeling lost and depressed as she tried to adjust to her new situation. She noticed her attitude start to deteriorate.

The second week she decided to get up early and go to the gym each morning, and her attitude drastically changed.

She started to feel optimistic about being at home and the freedom and opportunities it afforded her, and most important, she started to feel good about herself as a result.

Her act of self-care turned a seemingly negative situation into a positive one, and the good feelings it engendered started to extend to others she came in contact with.

What helps you stay positive?

Create Your Private Oasis

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I was at a party the other day at a home I hadn’t been to before, and was very impressed by one of the rooms within it.

Beyond just being beautifully designed with high ceilings, wonderful color schemes and gorgeous windows overlooking a lovely landscaped backyard, the room had such cozy warmth about it.

It turns out that the hostess is an artist, who created the charming environment for inspiring her various masterpieces.

There were so many personal touches added to the arrangement of her artistic supplies and other tools necessary for her particular needs. The whole space had an aura beyond an ordinary home office or studio.

It got me thinking about the importance of having our own space or private oasis that is uniquely suited to our individual tastes and motivations.

Whether it’s a writing room or painting studio or anything in between, it is wonderful to have an environment that embraces our originality, and the feelings of peace such a space can provide.

What is your favorite private oasis?

 

Keep Your Power

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Happy New Year!

Each New Year, I like the practice of choosing a single word as a guiding force and direction for the coming 12 months.

However, this year I am using a THREE WORD mantra that I awoke with as 2017 arrived and it is: Keep Your Power.

So, for example, whenever I find myself worrying, I can internally utter the words, “Keep Your Power,” as a great reminder to not allow my peace to be disturbed by internal fear thoughts, and to upgrade my thoughts to something more positive.

Additionally, my mantra reinforcement can help to keep from reacting to external comments or circumstances, by remembering to not take the words or actions of others personally, thereby reducing feelings of hurt or anger.

It may sound like an easy task to keep our power, but almost all of us can attest to unintentionally giving away our peace of mind to someone else who pushes our buttons, and affects the way we think, feel, or behave.

Therefore, since we only have control over how we respond to our thoughts, feelings, and circumstances, it’s important to have mindful practices in place to assist us in making healthier choices, and take more beneficial actions.

Some of those actions might be a dedicated meditation time, or special readings, that lift our awareness and feelings to a higher place.

I heard someone say the other day that they are using the mantra ‘Don’t be mean in 2017‘ to help remember to put kindness first, when frustrations arise, and they’re tempted to react otherwise.

What phrases or actions are of the greatest assistance in helping you to keep your power?

 

 

 

Let Nature Restore You

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As the holiday season comes to a close, many of us may feel the need for some rest and relaxation from the busyness we just experienced. Sometimes the best cure for regaining our peace is found in nature itself.

For me, taking long walks on the beach, watching a sunset, or starring at the stars can instantly provide a therapeutic alteration to my state of mind.

There is something undeniably beautiful, powerful, and spiritual about the exterior gifts from nature, that can elicit such a peaceful, contemplative effect on our internal environment as well.

One cannot underestimate the importance of introspection on a regular basis, as it has a profound impact on the way we think, act, and operate in our relationships.

Therefore, the more we make room in our lives for stillness and reducing the noise level around us, the more we are able to hear the messages from within us.

Unfortunately, the busyness in our lives can pull us away from noticing the lovely settings which surround us, and allow them to fade away unnoticed into the background of each day. This lack of connection can prevent us from the serenity we long to experience.

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Fortunately, it is never too late to begin focusing on all the beauty around us, and reap the benefits of its rehabilitating power.

What nurtures you?