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Develop a Great Attitude

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We get to decide on a daily basis whether to view the events of our life as negative or positive. No doubt, it can be challenging to focus on the good that is happening, when undesirable things may be happening too.

Changing our attitude isn’t about being phony and artificially upbeat; it’s about feeling different on the inside which is all we have control over anyway. We definitely can’t always control outside circumstances, or make people do what we want.

However, we can make choices that lead to a more positive mind-set and outcome.

For instance, a friend of mine went through a location change in her place of employment that put her home much of each day. She went from working at the office to working from her primary residence.

The first week in this new arrangement left her feeling lost and depressed as she tried to adjust to her new situation. She noticed her attitude start to deteriorate.

The second week she decided to get up early and go to the gym each morning, and her attitude drastically changed.

She started to feel optimistic about being at home and the freedom and opportunities it afforded her, and most important, she started to feel good about herself as a result.

Her act of self-care turned a seemingly negative situation into a positive one, and the good feelings it engendered started to extend to others she came in contact with.

What helps you stay positive?

Create Your Private Oasis

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I was at a party the other day at a home I hadn’t been to before, and was very impressed by one of the rooms within it.

Beyond just being beautifully designed with high ceilings, wonderful color schemes and gorgeous windows overlooking a lovely landscaped backyard, the room had such cozy warmth about it.

It turns out that the hostess is an artist, who created the charming environment for inspiring her various masterpieces.

There were so many personal touches added to the arrangement of her artistic supplies and other tools necessary for her particular needs. The whole space had an aura beyond an ordinary home office or studio.

It got me thinking about the importance of having our own space or private oasis that is uniquely suited to our individual tastes and motivations.

Whether it’s a writing room or painting studio or anything in between, it is wonderful to have an environment that embraces our originality, and the feelings of peace such a space can provide.

What is your favorite private oasis?

 

Keep Your Power

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Happy New Year!

Each New Year, I like the practice of choosing a single word as a guiding force and direction for the coming 12 months.

However, this year I am using a THREE WORD mantra that I awoke with as 2017 arrived and it is: Keep Your Power.

So, for example, whenever I find myself worrying, I can internally utter the words, “Keep Your Power,” as a great reminder to not allow my peace to be disturbed by internal fear thoughts, and to upgrade my thoughts to something more positive.

Additionally, my mantra reinforcement can help to keep from reacting to external comments or circumstances, by remembering to not take the words or actions of others personally, thereby reducing feelings of hurt or anger.

It may sound like an easy task to keep our power, but almost all of us can attest to unintentionally giving away our peace of mind to someone else who pushes our buttons, and affects the way we think, feel, or behave.

Therefore, since we only have control over how we respond to our thoughts, feelings, and circumstances, it’s important to have mindful practices in place to assist us in making healthier choices, and take more beneficial actions.

Some of those actions might be a dedicated meditation time, or special readings, that lift our awareness and feelings to a higher place.

I heard someone say the other day that they are using the mantra ‘Don’t be mean in 2017‘ to help remember to put kindness first, when frustrations arise, and they’re tempted to react otherwise.

What phrases or actions are of the greatest assistance in helping you to keep your power?

 

 

 

Let Nature Restore You

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As the holiday season comes to a close, many of us may feel the need for some rest and relaxation from the busyness we just experienced. Sometimes the best cure for regaining our peace is found in nature itself.

For me, taking long walks on the beach, watching a sunset, or starring at the stars can instantly provide a therapeutic alteration to my state of mind.

There is something undeniably beautiful, powerful, and spiritual about the exterior gifts from nature, that can elicit such a peaceful, contemplative effect on our internal environment as well.

One cannot underestimate the importance of introspection on a regular basis, as it has a profound impact on the way we think, act, and operate in our relationships.

Therefore, the more we make room in our lives for stillness and reducing the noise level around us, the more we are able to hear the messages from within us.

Unfortunately, the busyness in our lives can pull us away from noticing the lovely settings which surround us, and allow them to fade away unnoticed into the background of each day. This lack of connection can prevent us from the serenity we long to experience.

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Fortunately, it is never too late to begin focusing on all the beauty around us, and reap the benefits of its rehabilitating power.

What nurtures you?

Spread Good Cheer

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In the spirit of gift giving time, the lyrics below by Karen Drucker & Karen Taylor-Good seemed appropriate.

A daily dose of positive declarations, not only benefits us with good feelings, but spreads contagious good cheer to all we come in contact with.

Good reminder to affirm that our presence is a present to ourselves and others!

What optimistic mantra helps you feel good?

 

I am a gift, no matter what age,

no matter how I look,

there’s beauty in each stage.

I am a gift, and I promise every day,

when I look in the mirror I’ll say, “I am a gift.

I am a gift; I’ve loved really well,

and every year I’ve lived has a different tale to tell.

I’ve made mistakes, have some regrets.

But I promise I’ll never forget I am a gift.

There may be times when I forget the truth about me.

When it seems time and youth are just marching on without me.

That’s when I might need you to find me,

and ever so gently remind me that

I am a gift, a precious child.

I’m put here on this earth but only for a while.

So I make this vow and I say it with love,

“I am perfect and whole and enough, and I am a gift.” 

Don’t Reject Yourself

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In reading an inspirational book the other day, I came across the following positive passage, and thought I would share it with you below. This struck me as a wonderful mantra to read on a daily basis to lift us up, and combat the sneaky internal critic that visits us on a regular basis.

I will no longer deal in self-contempt. I will turn down negative inner dialogue that constantly makes negative comparisons between myself and others. Shame is no longer a part of my identity. Thoughts of my being defective or not quite good enough are being released from my consciousness at this moment. I am a lovable and capable person, and I will not reject myself.

― Rokelle Lerner

It can be tempting to doubt our lovability or value when someone says an unkind remark, or acts in a negative way toward us. Certain words or behaviors can really sting, and hurt our feelings, along with the practice of comparing ourselves to others. We certainly don’t want to add to the situation by being unkind toward ourselves too!

Therefore, it’s always a good reminder to be our own best friend, and not abandon or reject ourselves with self-criticism, no matter what is going on within or around us!

What helps you to combat the internal critic?

Be a Victor Not a Victim

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In honor of author Louise Hay’s recent 90th birthday, I thought I would share some of her teachings below, which originated in her book entitled You Can Heal Your Life.

She has been an advocate, and teacher for helping people to love themselves during much of her adult life. She didn’t come from a privileged background or an adoring home, but managed to create a loving life, in spite of her situation.

Many of us come from similarly unhelpful upbringings, and know the internal challenges or insecurities that can result from that experience. However, instead of becoming a victim, she and others have become victors, who are changing their lives, and inspiring those around them as well.

Her example, and nurturing methods helped inspire the writing of my own book too.

In reviewing all the self-care reminders listed below, which has been your greatest challenge or greatest success?

Do Mirror Work.

Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say, “I love you, I really love you!”

Have Fun.

Remember the things that gave you joy as a child. Incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the Universe rejoices with you!

Love Yourself . . . Do It Now.

Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin now—and do the best you can.

Stop All Criticism.

Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

Forgive Yourself.

Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently.

Don’t Scare Yourself.

Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

Be Gentle and Kind and Patient.

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

Be Kind to Your Mind.

Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

Praise Yourself.

Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

Support Yourself.

Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

Be Loving to Your Negatives.

Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.

Take Care of Your Body.

Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.