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See Yourself However You Choose

“We see the world, not as it is, but as we areor, as we are conditioned to see it.”

Dr. Stephen Covey

One of the great things about our having an incredible mind is that we can use it however we choose.

We can use it to think loving thoughts about ourselves and others, or use it for the condemnation of both.

Either way is our choice.

Many of us never ask ourselves how we came to feel about ourselves the way we do. Usually, we are conditioned to see the world and ourselves in a certain way based on the environmental influences of our parents and peers.

Unfortunately, many of us have drawn faulty conclusions or adopted disempowering beliefs that were based on our interpretations of others behaviors toward us.

For example, if a caregiver was harsh in their treatment or words toward us, we may have interpreted that behavior as having to do with our being unlovable, instead of understanding that they have an issue with appropriately expressing themselves.

However, as we grow into adulthood, we become increasingly accountable for developing our own belief systems and changing the lens we have been looking through.

After all, what we choose to believe about ourselves has immense consequences in how we behave in the external world and how we feel in our internal world.

Fortunately, since our beliefs are learned, they can be unlearned and reconditioned in our favor. This is often easier said than done because our beliefs have become so ingrained and are such a part of us due to repetition in our thoughts.

However, writing down our own personal history or story can help us find and uproot any limiting beliefs that may be hanging out in our subconscious mind.

This exercise can be a fun adventure like a scavenger hunt.

Gaining awareness of what is not serving us can be an incredible gift toward challenging distorted beliefs or upgrading any thoughts that might be making us feel bad.

Once we locate a belief that is not serving our highest good, we can repeat an empowering refrain such as ‘I am willing to release this negative belief, and replace it with something more beneficial to my highest self.’

Since repetition got us into the beliefs we currently have, repetition can get us out.

What phrase will you repeat?




Look Beyond Conditioning


Our preconceptions can dramatically alter the way we perceive the world. Each of us filters the world through our own beliefs, biases, interpretations and attitudes making objectivity a challenge.

This idea is underscored in a thought provoking film which came out years ago entitled What the Bleep Do We Know!? starring actress Marlee Matlin.

The information contained within the documentary, provides some interesting discussion about how we’re conditioned to see ourselves in a certain way, and believe the world is as we see it.

However, the movie offers the idea that perhaps there are many different ways to view our life, and that there are many possibilities available to us, that our conditioning keeps us from considering or exploring.

The strong influence from familial training or our interpretations of those experiences will affect the choices we make and the way we feel.

Therefore, it is beneficial to become more open-minded and look beyond our own conditioning for other information that may positively influence our life in meaningful ways.

For instance, many of us can relate to finding ourselves in repeatedly unsatisfying relationships, or jobs from making the same choices over and over again, that haven’t always served our highest good until we noticed a pattern.

I know when I was young; I tended to choose the same type of dating partner over and over again, based on ineffective beliefs about myself, and the mistaken idea about being able to change another person, without their desire to do so.

Fortunately, once I became aware of this unhelpful belief system and negative personal filter, I was able to open my mind, and learn better ways to become more discerning which led to the highly elevated choice in my husband.

So, whether this particular film is to your liking or not, it is always advantageous to stay teachable, and open to learning beyond our own vantage point.

What new information on your journey helped turn your life around?

Follow Proven Steps to Success

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Many of us remember the scene in the comedy, When Harry Met Sally, where the onlooking customer in the restaurant says, “I’ll have what she’s having.” This of course, was in response to Sally enjoying an incredibly pleasurable lunch! 🙂

Similarly, many of us look to those who are successful, and wish we could experience the same level of gratification that they are feeling.

This is certainly attainable if we do what they’re doing. Many of the most successful people seem to share certain habits and strategies, which have guided them on their journey to achieving their dreams.

Jack Canfield, co-creator of the bestselling Chicken Soup for the Soul series, is definitely an inspiring example of one who has mastered the strategies necessary to achieve his visions, and shares them in his wonderful book, The Success Principles.

This inspiring guide contains over 60 timeless principles that can be adapted to our own life, and increase our confidence along the way.

I particularly enjoyed the chapter on goal setting, as it really motivated me to make this a regular habit, and experience some fun in the process. Although some of us feel our goals need to be massive in scope, this is not necessarily the case.

Jack suggests that even the smallest of objectives make life rich and rewarding. The point is to set goals each day that feel good, and keep us looking forward to the day ahead.

This can include anything from thinking more positively, to larger endeavors such as career changes or traveling the world.

So, if you find yourself wanting what someone else is having, let it inspire you to start setting goals today!