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Be Kind and Rewind

The expression above is obviously a good rule of thumb to follow in all our important relationships and in all interactions with those around us as well. Though tempting to unload our every negative thought, we can choose to deliver our truths with grace and love.

As we know, constructive criticism can be helpful, but cruel words or blunt honesty can be damaging. We can all agree that there’s a world of difference between a negative remark and loving direction.

It is certainly reasonable in some situations to advise another against taking certain actions which may bring them harm, or provide personal boundaries in order to take care of ourselves, but it can be done in a way that isn’t demeaning or disrespectful.

This applies to gossip as well. Even though it does not involve criticizing someone directly to his or her face, it is still a very destructive energy and communication practice for all concerned.

If others do happen to criticize or provide friendly feedback to us, it can be helpful to look and see if there is any merit to what they are saying. If not, then it’s important to avoid taking it personally.

When tempted, how do you rewind the negative statement you are about to make and change it to something that is more constructive? How do you handle feedback?

 

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Assess Your Communication Style

Recently I was involved in a group where one of the participants was quite harsh in her communication style such as using accusatory language and hostile behavior. It made for an unpleasant experience for all the people concerned.

This kind of situation happens in work places as well, where a certain coworker can be very difficult to work with and makes our job environment very uncomfortable as well.

Unfortunately, we don’t often have control over the people who sign up for a particular group or the personnel that is hired at a company.

However, we certainly can speak up for ourselves, have boundaries, and not engage in the drama that can surround such individuals.

Interesting enough, people are often unaware of how inappropriate and unkind their communication delivery is, and when confronted will seem surprised by how they are being perceived.

Therefore, being mindful of how we speak and the tone of voice we use is so essential, and a very important goal for improving our relationships.

That said, it can be very valuable to assess our communication styles by asking ourselves the following questions in order to increase our awareness:

  • Am I kind and considerate when I express myself with my tone, words, and delivery?
  • Do I dominate a conversation, or do I actually listen to others, too?
  • Do I become defensive when someone indicates I’ve hurt their feelings?
  • Am I more focused on what I want to say than what others have to say?
  • Am I open-minded enough to respect the viewpoints of others even if they differ from my own?
  • Do I jump to negative conclusions about others or get offended easily?

How did you do with answering the list?

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Stay True to You

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As we know, several people can say the same thing or have the same basic message, yet we respond to each person differently. This seems to result from the many different and unique ways we all express ourselves, which appeals to certain groups and not another.

For instance, many of us have favorite authors we love, and will buy whatever they put out in the world or whatever they recommend. We like what they represent and connect with their ideas. Conversely, another writer can say the same message but we aren’t interested or inspired by their delivery.

As for myself, I connect with Dr. Christiane Northrup, as I find her information to be credible and empowering along with her recommendations, especially after my health scare last year.

Recently, she recommended a book by Anthony William entitled, Medical Medium Life-Changing Foods: Save Yourself and the Ones You Love with the Hidden Healing Powers of Fruits & Vegetables.

However, I do like to branch out and explore other writers for a change of pace, and have come across many who use very colorful language in delivering their message. This style appears to be very popular, judging by the number of followers they are attracting, along with their frequent daily social media postings.

It’s great that there are so many approaches available that can reach a larger population, who might not otherwise be open to the positive information being taught. It also makes me appreciate the mainstays I have been following for years, and see why I’ve been drawn to them as well.

In spite of what others are doing, it’s important to stay true to who we are, and use our own voice for our authentic expression, rather than trying to fit into someone else’s mold.

If we all expressed ourselves the same way, it would be very limiting, and would exclude all those who respond to our particular communication approach.

How do you stay true to you?