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Redirect Your Focus

It’s easy to focus on what’s wrong, but what about what’s right?

Many of us have had our turn at believing that negative thinking is more realistic than positive thoughts. In fact, it can feel like focusing all on the possible problems that can happen and worrying about them is a preventive measure in keeping away unwanted experiences.

In reality, focusing on what’s wrong or what can potentially go wrong not only makes us feel bad, but doesn’t prevent what we are worrying about from happening anyway. In actuality, negative thinking is a fear based thought habit, from years of conditioning, and repetition, telling us all kinds of self-defeating messages. As we know, all this does is create more anxiety, and takes away our peace of mind.

Therefore, in order to keep our mind calm, and trained to see the brighter side of life, there are many processes we can install to receive positive mental replenishment.

We’ve probably all heard of meditation, reading positive literature, saying affirmations or reciting a regular mantra on a daily basis to reprogram our brain. I would add that surrounding ourselves with things that are aesthetically pleasing in our homes or enjoying outside activities such as sitting by the ocean, hiking a mountain, swimming in a pool or planting in the garden are just as mentally replenishing as well.

Additionally, keeping in contact with our family, friends and other supportive people who we feel wonderful spending time with can keep us upbeat and refueled too.

So, we get to choose each day whether or not to listen to our unhelpful programmed beliefs, or defer to a more enlightened part of ourselves.

How do you stay positive?

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Avoid Going in Circles

When we look out at the ocean, each of us selects certain things to focus on such as seagulls, surfers, boaters, swimmers, and even our wandering thoughts. Unfortunately, sometimes our roaming thoughts can turn to fear, guilt, or remorse, which doesn’t lead to feeling good or take us where we want to go.

Therefore, we need to direct our thinking toward ideas, images or beliefs that will elevate us, and perhaps cease watching certain negative television programming too! 🙂

Like a fish swimming in a bowl, we can go round and round in circles and have a limited view of what else is available or possible and end up feeling trapped. But, unlike the fish, we can expand our view by choosing more positive thoughts, and set ourselves free no matter what is happening.

We’ve all heard about the law of attraction, and the strong energetic vibrational pull which is often associated with manifesting a certain relationship, career or other desired outcome from optimistic verses pessimistic thinking.

Unfortunately, too often, we become preoccupied with manifesting specific situations which can lead to disappointment, frustration or depression if our outcomes don’t show up on time, or in the way we want. This is not a unique state of mind or surprising emotion to experience when faced with unrealized goals, dreams or desires. However, getting discouraged is often a common reason why our desires don’t seem to be materializing.

Ironically, when we decide to care more about how we feel, verses what we wish to attract, than we are victors no matter if the desired event comes to pass or not. Either way, by reaching for uplifting thoughts, we get to experience more joy, which is why we often want external events or situations in the first place.

Therefore, when we become feeling good focused, we get to feel great regardless of events, and paradoxically, without the negativity or low energy of disappointment getting in the way, our expectations often do occur.

What helps you stay feeling good?