Tag Archive | Freedom

Say Yes!

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It’s funny how the smallest of decisions can have an enormous effect on our day, and life. For instance, I attended a function on Saturday, where I didn’t know any of the other attendees.

When the event concluded, I intended to head to my car and return directly home. However, instead, I decided to hang around for a bit afterwards, which led to a great discussion with a few other attendees who were planning to head home as well.

Our great connection, led to a really enjoyable impromptu lunch, and plans to get together again soon! We were all pleased with how we took the action and said yes, to getting out of our comfort zones, and going with the flow.

On my way home and feeling great from this encounter, I heard on the radio that our local professional football team was doing their summer training at a facility not far from our house.

So, spontaneously, my husband and I decided to go the stadium and watch their practice, which was not in our original chore listed plans for the day. However, we said yes to the moment and just followed the flow of the day.

We met a great couple in the seats next to us, and more great connections for the day resulted, including meeting this little cutie below in the seats in front of us. She is a great cheerleader!

Little cheerleader

Too often, it is easier to stick with a set plan, and not be open to new opportunities. By taking just a few unexpected actions that day, I met new friends from my event, and my husband and I had a fun experience at the football practice.

Carrying the spirit of saying yes to new experiences, and allowing some spontaneity into our life in large and small ways, creates a positive emotional state change which we often try to get just by thinking good thoughts.

Thinking our way to good feelings is very valuable, but also doing fun and different things gives us a natural high, and gets us out of our heads! A vacation from thinking and just doing is a real treat too!

Fear is usually the culprit which keeps us from initiating conversations with others, or attending certain events. A book I read many years ago called, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Dr. Susan Jeffers, really addresses this issue in depth.

It’s a great reminder that it is natural and normal to experience feelings of fear, but to not let them stop us from saying yes because of them.

What a freedom!

Do you consider yourself a spontaneous person?

 

Let Go of the Outcome

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At some point in our life, we all experience times when something doesn’t go our way, even when we have taken all the right actions.

For instance, we might have returned to school to study a particular trade, but didn’t land our dream job right out of school. Or we might have been turned down for a promotion we worked hard for, or didn’t get the dream house we desired after saving for many years.

It is normal to have certain expectations about the outcomes we desire. However, if we don’t get the results we want, then we have to let go in the present moment, and trust that the outcome will be better for us down the road.

Letting go, and accepting a particular outcome doesn’t mean giving up or abandoning our dreams altogether, it just means we might have to find another way, or move in a different direction for the time being.

It is usually only in hindsight, that we can see the blessings behind the postponements. Thankfully, we usually end up finding a better job, starting our own company, or finding a better house than the one we originally planned on.

Experiencing any disappointment can be a challenge while we are going through it, but finding acceptance will make it a much more peaceful process. One way to find acceptance is by being grateful for what we already have, as expressed in a section of my book below.

‘Having a grateful heart makes us aware of all the wonderful things we currently have in our life, and an appreciation for all the gifts we’ve been given in the past. Increasing our awareness on a daily basis of all the good we have now and wish to receive, begins with “gratitude thinking.”

A good way to maintain a feeling of gratitude is to write down five or more things we’re grateful for each day, and really feel the appreciation.

We can also take the written list one step further as Dr. Christiane Northrup does, and keep a video log, where we record something we are grateful for each day too! That way, we have a visual book which is fun to look at as well.

By installing a daily habit of gratitude, we are nurturing our mind and heart with loving support, and developing trust that the right outcome for us is on the way!

How do you keep positive in the face of disappointments?

 

Utilize the Gift of Freedom

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The month of February is filled with Valentine’s Day gift giving ideas and discussions which can be a fun and exciting time between loved ones. Many of us choose to share the day with beautiful purchases and visible demonstrations of love; while others choose to quietly express their affection or don’t celebrate at all.

Either way, we all have the wonderful freedom to spend this or any other day the way we choose. This idea got me thinking about freedom in general, and how many of us stifle ourselves and others from making certain choices or pursuing certain desires.

We can live much like a bird in a cage with the door wide open, and the opportunity to take flight; yet remain enclosed in the familiar. It can be scary to venture out into the unknown and navigate new territory!

Sometimes we stop ourselves from taking advantage of the liberties we could enjoy by believing the discouraging comments from others, or our own limiting thinking as well.

For example, many years ago I was having a conversation with someone who had many ideas and dreams for herself, yet spoke about them as if they were not possible to achieve. I inquired why she couldn’t pursue her dreams, and I was met with the following statement:

“It is all great to talk in platitudes but I have to make a living.”

Her comment really struck a chord with me because it mirrored back to me some of my own attitudes and those of others, when I first began making changes in my life. I talked to many people about life goals and dreams and while many responses were encouraging and supportive, others were not. One comment in particular really sticks out and is an unfortunate viewpoint:

Creating the life we want is all a bunch of psychological mumbo jumbo.”

These outside comments or internal thoughts can really stop us from believing it is possible to make changes, and live the life we want.

It is definitely a reality that we need to make a living and our dreams don’t always fill our bank accounts right away. However, nothing says we cannot still pursue our dreams and goals while working somewhere else in the meantime.

For example, I went to college at night for many years while working a full time job because I had a goal to complete my education. At first, my mind told me I was too old or too tired and what was the use since I already had a good job.

However, in spite of this negativity and fear, I felt the fear and did it anyway. It wasn’t easy but I finished my degree, one class at a time. Then, more recently, I wrote a book entitled, The Right Relationship Starts with You, while working full time as well. It was a real challenge but I did finish it, one page at a time.

This is not to boast or impress anyone but to illustrate that there are ways to reach our goals and still be mindful of our present circumstances.

It can be very scary and a truly vulnerable experience to put ourselves out there, and try something new. For when we do step outside our comfort zone, the fear of failure can surface, as well as, concerns of appearing foolish or being full of ourselves.

However, we don’t want to let our uneasiness be an excuse for not doing the work required, and live in regret for not trying.

The discomfort of discipline is temporary but the pain of regret is forever.  

Action step:

Ask yourself if you are using the gift of freedom to the fullest. Why or why not?