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Redirect Your Focus

It’s easy to focus on what’s wrong, but what about what’s right?

Many of us have had our turn at believing that negative thinking is more realistic than positive thoughts. In fact, it can feel like focusing all on the possible problems that can happen and worrying about them is a preventive measure in keeping away unwanted experiences.

In reality, focusing on what’s wrong or what can potentially go wrong not only makes us feel bad, but doesn’t prevent what we are worrying about from happening anyway. In actuality, negative thinking is a fear based thought habit, from years of conditioning, and repetition, telling us all kinds of self-defeating messages. As we know, all this does is create more anxiety, and takes away our peace of mind.

Therefore, in order to keep our mind calm, and trained to see the brighter side of life, there are many processes we can install to receive positive mental replenishment.

We’ve probably all heard of meditation, reading positive literature, saying affirmations or reciting a regular mantra on a daily basis to reprogram our brain. I would add that surrounding ourselves with things that are aesthetically pleasing in our homes or enjoying outside activities such as sitting by the ocean, hiking a mountain, swimming in a pool or planting in the garden are just as mentally replenishing as well.

Additionally, keeping in contact with our family, friends and other supportive people who we feel wonderful spending time with can keep us upbeat and refueled too.

So, we get to choose each day whether or not to listen to our unhelpful programmed beliefs, or defer to a more enlightened part of ourselves.

How do you stay positive?

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Develop a Great Attitude

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We get to decide on a daily basis whether to view the events of our life as negative or positive. No doubt, it can be challenging to focus on the good that is happening, when undesirable things may be happening too.

Changing our attitude isn’t about being phony and artificially upbeat; it’s about feeling different on the inside which is all we have control over anyway. We definitely can’t always control outside circumstances, or make people do what we want.

However, we can make choices that lead to a more positive mind-set and outcome.

For instance, a friend of mine went through a location change in her place of employment that put her home much of each day. She went from working at the office to working from her primary residence.

The first week in this new arrangement left her feeling lost and depressed as she tried to adjust to her new situation. She noticed her attitude start to deteriorate.

The second week she decided to get up early and go to the gym each morning, and her attitude drastically changed.

She started to feel optimistic about being at home and the freedom and opportunities it afforded her, and most important, she started to feel good about herself as a result.

Her act of self-care turned a seemingly negative situation into a positive one, and the good feelings it engendered started to extend to others she came in contact with.

What helps you stay positive?