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Start a Happiness Practice

As we approach a New Year, it can be fun to create ways to inspire a positive beginning and not necessarily by making resolutions.

Instead, one idea I heard about and love, is jotting down notes on little pieces of colorful paper about things that make us happy, and reading them at the end of the year!

We can include the recognition of an accomplished goal, fun memories, surprise gifts and other things we are grateful for while they are happening.

Each year is a clean slate so starting January 2018 with an empty jar and adding a note each day or week with a good thing that happened would forge a new focus on the great stuff that occurs.

We can also get creative with the type of jar or container we use too, and how we decide to decorate it, along with the paper we’d enjoy using.

Then, how fun to gather on New Year’s Eve and empty the jar and read about the wonderful year we just had, especially if we did this as a group activity with family and friends!

This happiness practice could certainly help to offset the upsets that garner our attention.

So, as we ring in the New Year, our first writing could be about the wonderful night of celebration we had with the changing of the year!

What positive New Year’s  ideas inspire you?

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See Yourself However You Choose

“We see the world, not as it is, but as we areor, as we are conditioned to see it.”

Dr. Stephen Covey

One of the great things about our having an incredible mind is that we can use it however we choose.

We can use it to think loving thoughts about ourselves and others, or use it for the condemnation of both.

Either way is our choice.

Many of us never ask ourselves how we came to feel about ourselves the way we do. Usually, we are conditioned to see the world and ourselves in a certain way based on the environmental influences of our parents and peers.

Unfortunately, many of us have drawn faulty conclusions or adopted disempowering beliefs that were based on our interpretations of others behaviors toward us.

For example, if a caregiver was harsh in their treatment or words toward us, we may have interpreted that behavior as having to do with our being unlovable, instead of understanding that they have an issue with appropriately expressing themselves.

However, as we grow into adulthood, we become increasingly accountable for developing our own belief systems and changing the lens we have been looking through.

After all, what we choose to believe about ourselves has immense consequences in how we behave in the external world and how we feel in our internal world.

Fortunately, since our beliefs are learned, they can be unlearned and reconditioned in our favor. This is often easier said than done because our beliefs have become so ingrained and are such a part of us due to repetition in our thoughts.

However, writing down our own personal history or story can help us find and uproot any limiting beliefs that may be hanging out in our subconscious mind.

This exercise can be a fun adventure like a scavenger hunt.

Gaining awareness of what is not serving us can be an incredible gift toward challenging distorted beliefs or upgrading any thoughts that might be making us feel bad.

Once we locate a belief that is not serving our highest good, we can repeat an empowering refrain such as ‘I am willing to release this negative belief, and replace it with something more beneficial to my highest self.’

Since repetition got us into the beliefs we currently have, repetition can get us out.

What phrase will you repeat?

 

 

 

Develop a Great Attitude

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We get to decide on a daily basis whether to view the events of our life as negative or positive. No doubt, it can be challenging to focus on the good that is happening, when undesirable things may be happening too.

Changing our attitude isn’t about being phony and artificially upbeat; it’s about feeling different on the inside which is all we have control over anyway. We definitely can’t always control outside circumstances, or make people do what we want.

However, we can make choices that lead to a more positive mind-set and outcome.

For instance, a friend of mine went through a location change in her place of employment that put her home much of each day. She went from working at the office to working from her primary residence.

The first week in this new arrangement left her feeling lost and depressed as she tried to adjust to her new situation. She noticed her attitude start to deteriorate.

The second week she decided to get up early and go to the gym each morning, and her attitude drastically changed.

She started to feel optimistic about being at home and the freedom and opportunities it afforded her, and most important, she started to feel good about herself as a result.

Her act of self-care turned a seemingly negative situation into a positive one, and the good feelings it engendered started to extend to others she came in contact with.

What helps you stay positive?