Design a Balanced Life

It is quite easy to focus too heavily on one area of life, and get out of balance. For instance, we may spend hours at the office, or on the computer, and neglect our relationships. Conversely, we may spend disproportionate hours with the family and neglect our vocational responsibilities.

It is important to feed all areas of life, and not expect to get all of our needs met from one specific source. If we rely too much on one area, and something happens to jeopardize it, we are left without the nurturance from other sources to help us handle the situation.

For example, if the sole focus is on our career, and this represents the main source of our self-esteem, connection and love, then getting laid off or facing retirement would be a very devastating loss. Likewise, if an important relationship ends, we would experience an immense degree of loss and isolation if other parts of life were not providing any sustenance. This could also lead to prematurely beginning a new relationship in hopes of alleviating the pain and loneliness.

By having other areas of life to draw from, you experience yourself in a multitude of ways and feel more fulfilled as a result. Then, if something does happen, you are not wiped out by the loss or setback.

Life is meant to be fun and not just comprised of relentless responsibilities. Therefore, we don’t want to assume the one-dimensional role of strict adult, and forget the playful side of ourselves in the process.

We are more than any label we have been assigned. We need to balance out the components that make up a well-rounded life, or else experience the neediness, loneliness and discontent that results when we do not.

The following list provides some examples of a well-balanced life, and a guide to the many parts that make up the whole:

  1. Contributiongiving to the community, making a difference around you
  2. Hobbiesself-expression, experimentation, creativity
  3. Leisure pleasurable activities, vacations, relaxing
  4. Alone Timespirituality, self-care, peace
  5. Personal Growth – evolution, development, awareness
  6. Worksuccess, career, financial independence
  7. Relationshiplove, intimacy, communication
  8. Friends  – connection, joyful activities
  9. Family – love, belonging

Creating balance is not a one-time achievement, as it is a ‘balancing act’ to gain equilibrium. It is an ongoing process, whereby you are constantly fluctuating between the areas mentioned above.

For example, sometimes work requires more of your time due to a special project. Once the project ends, you readjust and fulfill the other areas. Similarly, when on vacation, family and leisure take center stage for a period of time.

It is important to be present in whichever area of life you are focused on, while not neglecting all the other pieces entirely. It is not about being rigidly balanced, but creating a blueprint for living which includes all parts of the whole.

Action Step:

Design a personal blueprint that includes all areas of a well-balanced life. Then, take some action toward filling in the missing pieces.

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16 thoughts on “Design a Balanced Life

  1. I am working in balancing a lot of aspects of my life as a single working mom dating a single working dad who lives 25 minutes away. We want to make it work and do our best but it is hard. Thank you for a list and advice that I can put to use.

    • So glad you found the information helpful and applicable to your situation. It is definitely a challenge to find balance at times, but nice to hear you are in the process of doing that. Thank you for your heartfelt comments.

  2. Excellent, excellent, excellent advice! It makes such perfect sense the way you have described it and we can all learn so much from this.

  3. Cathie – What a great reminder for us not to become too “identified” with any one aspect of Being! I love the list and have decided to just cut it out and keep it handy. We all need these reminders from time to time. Thanks for sharing! Blessings, Sloan

    • Hi Sloan – I love that you cut the list out of the post, in order to have it handy for easy reference. Thanks for sharing that clever idea and all your great comments. I appreciate your input. Warmly, Cathie

    • Thank you very much! I am delighted you enjoyed reading the post, especially the list and are actively using the information. It is terrific that you want to share it with others as well.

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