Archive | August 2018

Redirect Your Focus

It’s easy to focus on what’s wrong, but what about what’s right?

Many of us have had our turn at believing that negative thinking is more realistic than positive thoughts. In fact, it can feel like focusing all on the possible problems that can happen and worrying about them is a preventive measure in keeping away unwanted experiences.

In reality, focusing on what’s wrong or what can potentially go wrong not only makes us feel bad, but doesn’t prevent what we are worrying about from happening anyway. In actuality, negative thinking is a fear based thought habit, from years of conditioning, and repetition, telling us all kinds of self-defeating messages. As we know, all this does is create more anxiety, and takes away our peace of mind.

Therefore, in order to keep our mind calm, and trained to see the brighter side of life, there are many processes we can install to receive positive mental replenishment.

We’ve probably all heard of meditation, reading positive literature, saying affirmations or reciting a regular mantra on a daily basis to reprogram our brain. I would add that surrounding ourselves with things that are aesthetically pleasing in our homes or enjoying outside activities such as sitting by the ocean, hiking a mountain, swimming in a pool or planting in the garden are just as mentally replenishing as well.

Additionally, keeping in contact with our family, friends and other supportive people who we feel wonderful spending time with can keep us upbeat and refueled too.

So, we get to choose each day whether or not to listen to our unhelpful programmed beliefs, or defer to a more enlightened part of ourselves.

How do you stay positive?

Contemplate Getting a Mentor

As many of you know, in addition to doing personal growth coaching with wonderful clients, I’ve been pursuing a Master’s degree in counseling, which takes me away from my communicating here from time to time.

The last few weeks have especially flown by quickly, but I wanted to check in, as I always enjoy our connecting together and will continue to do so.

Connection is so important and it makes me think about all the wonderful contacts I’ve made throughout the years, who have been empowering mentors that provided very valuable personal guidance along the way.

As most of us can attest to, without supportive direction, many of us wouldn’t be pursuing or achieving the goals we have in our life.

That being said, sometimes it’s not always easy to find or know where to go to find the needed support we are looking for at a given time.

Often, when introducing myself and what I do, I’m often asked what a coach does, which is a great question, as it can mean different things to different people.

Therefore, below is a relatively brief highlight list of what a coach or mentor can assist with as follows:

  • A coach helps you clarify what you want to accomplish in your life
  • Supports you through your fears and self-doubt
  • Keeps you focused on the big picture of where you want to go
  • Guides you to do your best and step outside your comfort zone
  • Helps you to live authentically by being true to yourself
  • Discusses how to use your thoughts and energy more effectively
  • Keeps you focused on taking small actions that garner huge results
  • Encourages self-care behaviors to enhance your well-being 

What could you add to the list from your experiences with a mentor?

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Enjoy your day!

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