The quote above has become very relevant in my own life lately and those around me as well. When we are looking to make a change or events happen that force a decision to be made, many of us respond in one of two ways:
- We impulsively react and make a decision without enough information.
- We drive ourselves crazy with endless details, information and obsessive thinking without really getting anywhere.
Of course, sometimes when we feel extreme confusion over some action to take, it can be a sign that we aren’t ready. On the other hand, it can just mean we are experiencing fears and loss about having to make a hard choice, which stops us from moving forward.
No one can really decide for us or be inside our skin to have full knowledge of what is causing our trepidation. It is useful to talk with others but then ultimately we have to weigh the input we receive against what feels true for us.
It can be painful when we are trying to decide between an array of choices; especially if we see them as black and white, right and wrong or good and bad. This thinking sets us up to lose either way because nothing we decide will feel good.
Therefore, once we have weighed the pros and cons and given ourselves some time to do what we feel is best; then taking an action either way will just lead us to different opportunities. We can’t usually predict the outcome of any decision we make with exact certainty. However, once we make a choice, then our energy is best served toward seeing what unfolds instead of living in regret and worry. Often, easier said than done!
If you are in a tug of war with your thinking, maybe some of the quotes below will help.
“You can’t make decisions based on fear and the possibility of what might happen.”
― Michelle Obama
“Waiting hurts. Forgetting hurts. But not knowing which decision to take can sometimes be the most painful…”
― José N. Harris
“If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another.The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.If this sounds too mystical, refer again to the body. Every significant vital sign- body temperature, heart rate, oxygen consumption, hormone level, brain activity, and so on- alters the moment you decide to do anything… decisions are signals telling your body, mind, and environment to move in a certain direction.” ― Deepak Chopra
“Trust your instincts, and make judgments on what your heart tells you. The heart will not betray you.”
― David Gemmell
I heard the saying below recently and think it is a good thing to think about today, especially if you are struggling with a decision.
‘Never make a permanent decision based on a temporary emotion!’